I 29m have been seeing this girl 25F for a few weeks now. We’ve gone on three dates total, with the third date only 3 days after the second (and it was her idea) so I thought that was a good sign. She was being a pretty slow texter the few days after the third and then said that she promises she’s not ignoring me, but more things got put on her and that she’ll get back to me when she could… that was almost a week ago.
I sent her a follow up text a few days ago, just saying that hope everything is good and if she needs anything let me know but that didn’t get a response. I’m not too sure what to make of this, is she not interested?
I honestly thought all three dates went amazing and when I dropped her off she mentioned she’ll let me know when she’s free again but it might not be for a bit cause her life is super busy right now and has been pretty open on all three dates that there’s a lot going on for her right now, which makes me think this no texts for 5 days makes sense. I’ve just never met someone that goes radio silent like that for so long if they’re interested in the other person.
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I’d cut your losses and move on. Even if she was busy, you’re telling me there was never a brief moment when she saw your message (because she definitely saw you texted her), but she chose not to respond. In a week. Yeah, I’d move on.
It seems odd..it takes 2 seconds to.text.
Read the room. Sucks to hear, but just move on. You’re not helping the situation by acting clingy. She said she was busy and you’ve reached out, nothing more to say.
As someone who has ADHD, and has major issues with getting distracted & time-blindness which gets worse when I am stressed and/or busy… The fact that she hasn’t immediately replied doesn’t automatically mean that she isn’t interested.
My personal record for forgetting to respond to a text is 6 months.
Stress can mess with people’s perception of time in funny ways.
The ball is in her court. She will reply when she is ready. In the meantime, just distract yourself.
If she replies, great! If not… then you are already moving on.
Make make time for ppl we like, busy or not!
It sounds like she’s ghosting you, but no harm in sending another text. I think after five days, it’s fair to reach out again. But don’t keep pushing it if she ignores this one.
There are a million possible explanations, but if she won’t respond, any reason doesn’t matter. Cut your losses and move on.
She’s not your gf. Move on my guy.