I’ve been dating my M22 girlfriend F21 for a little over 3 years. Her dad refuses to acknowledge that I exist and her mom refuses to meet me or talk to me.
They say things like “we’re concerned for your career” or “you need to focus on academics”
Since we started dating, her grades have gone up AND she switched into a more difficult, higher paying major.
I myself am in school for Electrical Engineering, and already have a job promised to me at a big company when I graduate, so It’s not like they’re shunning me because I’m a bum or a leech.
Her and I have never had a temporary breakup, or any massive fights or anything that would make parents wary of someone.
I’ve never been arrested, I don’t drink or do drugs, and I don’t run with sketchy people.
I just don’t get it. I really want them to be a part of our lives.
EDIT: my gf tries to get meetups set up once in a while. She tells her mom how happy we are together. Nothing changes. I’ve never even communicated with either of her parents.
EDIT 2: looks like the answer is “you can’t do anything but wait and hope” so hopefully my waiting a hoping pays off one day. Have a good night yall.
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You can’t force people to meet you. They may have their own reasons.
All you can do is wait, maybe get your girlfriend to put in a good word if she doesn’t do that already.
I would explain to the gf how important it is for you to meet her parents and how it would mean a lot to you. Then see if she is comfortable asking her parents to invite you to dinner one day. It will most likely have to be your gf that persuades her parents to agree to do a dinner and invite you over.
But why do you even care at this point? To be honest let’s say you plan on marrying her right, guess what you’ll be starting your own family and usually parents die out or they die and guess what you’ll keep living life with the women you wanted. Last thing you want to do is ruin a perfect relationship with someone you want to be with for others.
Are you both of the same ethnicity and/or religion? It’s possible they don’t want to meet you for those reasons, and your girlfriend just doesn’t want to tell you that. From my and others’ experience recently, this can be a major factor.
They Koreans?
Some cultures arent very accepting of people who are not of their own race. Pakistani would def be one. They may not like you because they had set standards for their daughter, education first no distractions, get a good job then settle down with a nice boy preferably Pakastani. You come into the picture and blow it all up. She has not completed her schooling and is living with you, amd you’re a white man. This is probably alot for them deal with, the old mindset doesnt change just because you live in a western country. All I can advise is be patient, your gf is excelling at school which works in your favour, treat her well, dont push it or force it. It may take longer and be a slower process than you expect but you 2 have time on your side. As time progresses Your actions will prove their pre judgement of you was wrong.