No, it would be fun for the physical aspect of dating but not so much for the mental/things in common part of dating since that age gap puts you in a completely different places in life generally speaking.
I did twice and it was terrible. As 48 I dated a 24 year old and after that a 26 year old.
So, in your mind you don’t really feel that old and actually me and the 24 year old kind of got on OK really. It went for a few months but then fizzled out. In all honesty, this may be TMI, I suspected she had gone through some sexual trauma and was trying to recreate it with me, an older man, which made me feel deeply uncomfortable about the whole thing.
The 26 year old was just a total nightmare. She wasn’t really that into me, I was pretty rich and she liked the high life but it felt entirely fake. When I broke it off, because it felt fake, she sent me pages and pages of angry texts about how she hated being with me.
So yeah, did it, defnitely wouldn’t do it again.
Oh, and the most negative thing ? Man, the super, SUPER judgey looks by other older women. They DID NOT like it one little bit when we were out.
I’m old enough to potentially be older than their father, so that would be weird by itself. The gap in lived experience, and their energy just makes me feel tired. Youngest I would go would be 30, and even that feels like pushing it.
I’m 50 so forgive me but I was in my 40s recently and did 20,25,23,28…so yes…women my age are generally angry and resentful and are like “what could you POSSIBLY talk about to a 22yr old?!??”
I’m like “anything”…it’s about maturity of thought process vs what they actually know. And there are SO MANY immature 45yr olds. shrug
At some point its more about experiences and goals in life than about age. I know men dating women that are 10+ years older and i know some who are dating 10+ years younger. I know childish old people and very weary and tired young people. Once you have settled into yourself and found what is important to you, you can find a partner in any adult. Of course there are challenges with huge age gaps, but as long as there is no inherent power dynamic and both parties are consenting adults its up to them. Might be judged by society for your choice of partner but that will happen regardless, but in some parts of the world your choice in partner has actual consequences… an man in his 40s dating a woman in her late 20s is rarely seen negatively. But as i said age is only one factor to consider and it gets less important after adulthood
I would say yes, just because I still want children. I’m 40, never been married, no kids. Is it ideal no. But at my age, women have had their kids already and don’t want anymore.
I just turned 41. I think like 26 surely is the youngest I’d date now. I guess there’s always outliers though. I am don’t really think about age when getting to know someone. It only matters so much.
Yes, When I was 42 I dated a woman that had just turned 27. It went on for almost 4 years.
She was more mature than many older women.
She was bright, intelligent, funny.. I never felt the age gap.
I’m 50 and my wife is 57. if i started dating again, i’d be really wary of the age gap, not because of creepiness or perception, but because of what that age gap translates to later in life. A young 50 is very much an older person at 60 and definitely at 65. No woman at 40 should be stuck essentially looking after a 65 year old man and possibly the health limitations that come there. The other issue is that your partners friends partners by and large are going to be in their 20s and 30s so they will be standing out as being the person with the old guy.
I’m not saying i wouldn’t do it, but i’d be putting my cards on the table.
Yes, I have recently — several. I’m 52 and I mostly love sex with young women. They’re freakier and wilder. I don’t mess around with escorts, gold diggers or sugar-baby wannabes. I can only date women who I know desire me — usually chicks with daddy issues. ❤️
I’m 39 years old. I aim for 35 to 42, but 28 or 29 is the absolute lowest I would go. I want a partner on my level, someone who’s stable and already knows what she wants. At that age, people have normally finished their education, have a job, and have a bit of life experience. If a woman that age would find me attractive is a whole different story, though.
Just to preface… I’m 41. In a 9 year relationship with a 37 y/o woman.
I might…. MIGHT date a 29 year old, but any younger and most likely not. Every time I talk to some of the younger girls on my adult sports teams or at friendly gatherings and bbq’s and such all I can think is “damn you’re so young.” It’s usually gossipy things that show their level of inexperience and immaturity dealing with adult relationships and friendships that throw me off. I will always be targeting someone that has already learned a lot of life’s little lessons and are capable of practicing them.
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No, it would be fun for the physical aspect of dating but not so much for the mental/things in common part of dating since that age gap puts you in a completely different places in life generally speaking.
I did twice and it was terrible. As 48 I dated a 24 year old and after that a 26 year old.
So, in your mind you don’t really feel that old and actually me and the 24 year old kind of got on OK really. It went for a few months but then fizzled out. In all honesty, this may be TMI, I suspected she had gone through some sexual trauma and was trying to recreate it with me, an older man, which made me feel deeply uncomfortable about the whole thing.
The 26 year old was just a total nightmare. She wasn’t really that into me, I was pretty rich and she liked the high life but it felt entirely fake. When I broke it off, because it felt fake, she sent me pages and pages of angry texts about how she hated being with me.
So yeah, did it, defnitely wouldn’t do it again.
Oh, and the most negative thing ? Man, the super, SUPER judgey looks by other older women. They DID NOT like it one little bit when we were out.
I’m old enough to potentially be older than their father, so that would be weird by itself. The gap in lived experience, and their energy just makes me feel tired. Youngest I would go would be 30, and even that feels like pushing it.
I’m 50 so forgive me but I was in my 40s recently and did 20,25,23,28…so yes…women my age are generally angry and resentful and are like “what could you POSSIBLY talk about to a 22yr old?!??”
I’m like “anything”…it’s about maturity of thought process vs what they actually know. And there are SO MANY immature 45yr olds. shrug
At some point its more about experiences and goals in life than about age. I know men dating women that are 10+ years older and i know some who are dating 10+ years younger. I know childish old people and very weary and tired young people. Once you have settled into yourself and found what is important to you, you can find a partner in any adult. Of course there are challenges with huge age gaps, but as long as there is no inherent power dynamic and both parties are consenting adults its up to them. Might be judged by society for your choice of partner but that will happen regardless, but in some parts of the world your choice in partner has actual consequences… an man in his 40s dating a woman in her late 20s is rarely seen negatively. But as i said age is only one factor to consider and it gets less important after adulthood
No. I’d date 30-39 though. Mainly because we’d be more likely to overlap goals in life.
I have no problem with guys who date younger though.
Yes but only if you have the time. They don’t know what they don’t know. It’s fun for a minute.
Sure, why not?
It depends.
I am immature enough that I can relate to people that young, but I am too asexual to want to date in general.
I would say yes, just because I still want children. I’m 40, never been married, no kids. Is it ideal no. But at my age, women have had their kids already and don’t want anymore.
I just turned 41. I think like 26 surely is the youngest I’d date now. I guess there’s always outliers though. I am don’t really think about age when getting to know someone. It only matters so much.
Yes, When I was 42 I dated a woman that had just turned 27. It went on for almost 4 years.
She was more mature than many older women.
She was bright, intelligent, funny.. I never felt the age gap.
I’m 50 and my wife is 57. if i started dating again, i’d be really wary of the age gap, not because of creepiness or perception, but because of what that age gap translates to later in life. A young 50 is very much an older person at 60 and definitely at 65. No woman at 40 should be stuck essentially looking after a 65 year old man and possibly the health limitations that come there. The other issue is that your partners friends partners by and large are going to be in their 20s and 30s so they will be standing out as being the person with the old guy.
I’m not saying i wouldn’t do it, but i’d be putting my cards on the table.
Yes.
I typically date women at least a decade younger, as I did not stabilize my life until I was almost 40.
I had a few girlfriends but, when I was 42 I had a 24yr old girlfriend. It lasted just over 4yrs.
And I’ll always be grateful for her acknowledging that I am a capable partner.
We are legit friends but no longer lovers.
A commenter said that women in their 40’s or beyond are often angry or resentful.
It should be noted I don’t date women with children…. that regularly eliminates women in our age group.
But I will say that a lot women in our age group don’t have the same type of joy about them. And that is a turn off for me.
It’s fine if they are mature and functional
Yes, I have recently — several. I’m 52 and I mostly love sex with young women. They’re freakier and wilder. I don’t mess around with escorts, gold diggers or sugar-baby wannabes. I can only date women who I know desire me — usually chicks with daddy issues. ❤️
I’m 39 years old. I aim for 35 to 42, but 28 or 29 is the absolute lowest I would go. I want a partner on my level, someone who’s stable and already knows what she wants. At that age, people have normally finished their education, have a job, and have a bit of life experience. If a woman that age would find me attractive is a whole different story, though.
Sure. Love is love. As long as e Europe involved is an adult.
Just to preface… I’m 41. In a 9 year relationship with a 37 y/o woman.
I might…. MIGHT date a 29 year old, but any younger and most likely not. Every time I talk to some of the younger girls on my adult sports teams or at friendly gatherings and bbq’s and such all I can think is “damn you’re so young.” It’s usually gossipy things that show their level of inexperience and immaturity dealing with adult relationships and friendships that throw me off. I will always be targeting someone that has already learned a lot of life’s little lessons and are capable of practicing them.