Hi im 19F my boyfriend is 22. We have been dating for around 3 months and we wanted to have sex for the first time, so last week that’s what we did! (A couple times through the week) But I found out he’s telling his friends and LYING, I don’t care if he tells people but lying about it isn’t okay!
His friends came to me and where like “so ___ pounded you” obvs half joking but I was confused because that didn’t happen lol so I asked them who told them that and my boyfriend did. He keeps lying about being so dominant with me in bed but the reality is I was on top the whole time and he was calling me mommy while I pinned his arms back and shit. If ANYONE is dominant in bed it’s ME not him at all, and it’s not like he wanted to be dominant he did not to my knowledge because we talked about it before because I didn’t want to make him feel weird or not get off because of how I enjoy sex. I DIDNT EVEN ASK HIM TO CALL ME MOMMY!
How do I talk to him about this? And should I break up with him? My friends are saying I should.
Thank you.
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You should correct his friends and tell them that actually, you fucked him and he was calling you “mommy” all on his own. Then break up with him. Because he’s an idiot and a tool.
You should be is lying about this what else could he be lying about
Since your bf wants to lie then lie too. Tell them he has a small willie and that he finished fast. And that he loved it when you would step on him and make him call you mommy.
Anyone who brags to their friends about this kind of stuff, is too immature to be in a relationship
Bro is too old to be acting like this.
This not adult behaviour, are you sure the ages are correct
He seems insecure in his own masculinity and immature. He thinks he has something to prove amongst his “bros”. Not a good start to a relationship.
Im dying. This is funny. Let him keep his lie. How does it hurt you? Id feed into it. Tell his friends that you call him papacito and he pounds your double hamburgesa. Tell them he almost choked you out because you are a freak. Your primary job is to make him look good and support him. Lol.
why would his friend even think thats okay to say
“the reality is I was on top the whole time”
Both times?
Does no one else think it’s weird his mates are talking to his girlfriend about their sexlife….?
Tell him he embarrassed you and cut off the top for a couple of days.
That’s not using sex as a weapon, he needs to realize you have feelings, and you need to realize you don’t need need to have sex with someone who’s hurt them.
This sounds like some weird jr high drama wtf 😭
Are his friends his age aswell? Sounds like they’re all your age or younger lol
This is so gross. He’s too old to be bragging and lying like this. Maybe he’s ashamed of being submissive, but no one has to know that but you. It’s not like his friends would figure that out if he just said, “Nah, dude, that’s private stuff.”
This would be a deal breaker for me.
Why are all these comments so unhinged…
Okay let’s take a breath for a moment.
I’m what way do you feel hurt? I mean yes lying to his friends was stupid and wrong. But what exactly are the things that make you upset.
Is it just the general principle of “someone lying about interactions with you” is it about”being seen as subservient in the bedroom”?
Talk to him about why he felt he needed to lie about it. Ask him if he understands how that makes you feel.
I can easily see this being a stupid idea in his head of “i need to be ‘manly’ so others will take me seriously”
I personally would hope that my friends are not that shallow but honestly i like to keep things from the bedroom in the bedroom besides the visible stuff.
People act like he is the worst when honestly stupid shit will happen in any relationship.
See how and why you feel the way you do. Talk with him about it. Make him understand. And make him prove that he understood.
That is if you want to communicate with your partner instead of breaking things off.
He want’s to suckle on a teet, be cradled like a baby, and live out his fantasies, but want’s to walk away and be heralded a champion. What a joke.
His friends may not believe you, and he may just continue to fool them, but it’ll catch up to them eventually. It always does- in ways they’ll never understand either. Just cut your losses and let them have the win. It isn’t worth the trouble.
Seriously. Don’t talk to him. Don’t reply to his messages or calls. He needs a real taste for consequences. He needs to lose his “mommy” to realise he doesn’t get to walk around telling his buddies what a refined sex-machine he is. Seriously, if he wants to convince them how sexually dominant he is, he can show them himself.
You should definitely look into getting a more mature boyfriend. If he’s speaking about you to his friends like that at 22, that’s a bit of a red flag. But idk how ur relationship works and it’s not mine so you do you
Your friends are tools telling you to just split up with him and lack any experience to warrant their opinions.
You need to sit down with your bf and tell him you know he’s been lying about what actually happened, if he reveals some form of insecurities explaining why he lied, give him ONLY ONE chance and help work on him with it, if he comes out anything less than that THEN leave him.
Everyone could be lying and they just saying that to rile up
Either way, his friends kinda suck too.
Might as well move on.
You just tell his friends that that’s not the case.
Something like
Haha he wishes he may be dominant in his head but I see no evidence.
Then tell him to stop chatting shit to his mates
Well its definitely weird but what you should do entirely depends on what you want to do about it.
How can you be ok with him bragging about your intimate and private sexlife. Lying or not.
You should tell his friends he was crying out mommy during sex then dump him. Thats some immature ass shit. And his friend group makes it clear why he is immature and will continue to be.
Tell his friends he has a tiny penis and doesn’t know how to use it. Simple get your own back but he’s a walking red flag run now girl
Start telling his friends about how you pegged him and how much he loves dressing in lingerie and sucking your toes.
Let’s put aside his lies, is it really appropriate for him to talk about your sex with his friends? And is it appropriate for his friends to ask you about it?