Ok so this is gonna sound ridiculous but I need some outside perspective because I feel like I’ve gaslit myself into confusion.
Basically, me (21M) and my best friend (20M) started this running joke about a month ago where we’d pretend to be a couple. Like it started off as us holding hands ironically to mess with people, pretending to be boyfriends at restaurants to see how awkward the waiter would get, that sort of thing. Then it escalated to things like kissing each other on the cheek for the bit, or cuddling on the couch when watching movies “because it’s funny.”
But then it just… kept going. Like it’s been a whole month and we’re still doing it. We’ve gone out to dinner multiple times (and not like fast food, I mean actual sit-down places), held hands walking around the city, we’ve kissed (not tongue or anything but still) and we’ve even started sleeping in the same bed sometimes, especially after nights out drinking.
I thought it was all ironic but now it’s just… normal? Like I catch myself texting him “good morning ❤️” without thinking about it. Last week he bought me a little keychain from a gift shop because “it reminded him of me” and I literally felt my heart do a weird little flip. And when we were out yesterday and someone assumed we were a couple… we didn’t even correct them. I almost felt proud in a weird way.
I’ve been sitting here wondering… are we actually just dating now? Like obviously we haven’t had “the talk” or anything and we started this as a joke but it doesn’t feel like a joke anymore. I don’t feel weird holding his hand or cuddling with him, it honestly feels kind of nice. But I’m also worried I’m just really deep into the bit and tricking myself into thinking this is something more.
Has anyone been through something like this? I feel like I’m 10 layers deep in irony and can’t tell what’s real anymore. Any advice?
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You didn’t fake date your best friend, you accidentally soft-launched your relationship. Congrats, king 👑
Bro you’re not deep in a bit, you’re deep in your feelings. Just ask him how he feels too because it honestly sounds like you’re already halfway in a relationship.
If you are sleeping in the same bed, just wake him up with a blow job tomorrow. That should solidify the relationship.
Just blow him already!
Y’all gay , hope that helps
Do that thing where you talk to him.
Yea, you most definitely ain’t straight, congratulations you found your partner and started relationship, gj.
You’re a couple.
Rent a cottage somewhere and do the physical stuff for a few days then talk
Is certainly not the worst way to find true love
I think you’ve just discovered your relationship with your friend has all new levels, layers, and joys that you weren’t aware of before. I think it’s absolutely beautiful. And it can stay right where it’s at without any pressure to add sex to it. Or, maybe sex might occur, which could be absolutely wonderful, IF you two had a really honest conversation about it beforehand and considered how you each might feel afterwards.
You absolutely don’t need any labels on your relationship.
You might enjoy the YA novel “Honestly Ben” by Bill Koenigsburg about straight jock Ben who develops a deepening relationship with a guy who happens to be gay and how they navigate that connection.
how does it feel to live my dream
Whatever you do, don’t sit down with him and talk about your feelings for each other. You came to the internet for answers and everything is right in front of you.
I don’t know – maybe have a conversation about it with them
Update me in 10 years after you fake marry as a joke and then fake buy a house together as a joke, and then fake adopt a kid and have a beautiful joke family together.
This is what every writer in the writing discords I join is writing. This exact story.
Yeah I mean me and my boyfriend were not dating we were just f*** buddies and then we ended up hanging out all the time and I ended up living in his house and then we realized that we were together
Oh my god – you are living in a ‘bisexual awakening’ romance novel.
Advice is always to communicate. If it’s going well and you’re both enjoying it, whats the issue.
This is wholesome af, and yeah, I think you’re a couple, but maybe talk to him?
if it acts like a duck it is a duck
Uh huh, fake dating…that’s what you call it when you’re too embarrassed to admit you’re gay…you should be ashamed of yourself.
Assuming this isn’t a joke
Here is the difference between being gay and just a really strong platonic intimacy with a friend you love…
Do you want to suck his cock? Does his smell make you hard? Are you the big spoon and you rest your hard cock in his crack and think about pulling his underwear down and sliding in? When you masturbate are you thinking of him?
If the answer to those questions are no – then you’ve discovered a secret – you can be straight and like to cuddle with your same gender friend.
As a gay guy, when I was in my teens, this really fucked with my head on a few occasions.
Sounds a bit gay to be honest mate, go for it.
How’s the fake sex?
You wanted this