So I (21F) been seeing this guy (22M) for about 2 and a half weeks. things have been going perfectly since the first date so we’ve hung out a ton. he takes me out a lot on really thoughtful dates centered around my interests, opens the car door, pays for everything, cooks for me, ect. i hadn’t seen a single red flag everything has just been going incredibly well. we’ve hung out almost everyday since we’ve met at this point. last night i was over at his house and he brought up the conversation of being boyfriend girlfriend and asked what i’d need to get to that point. i told him that things have been going great i just need more time before he asks. he was clearly upset by this response. he kinda went on a rant of how he doesn’t understand why id need more time when hes head over heels for me and knows what he wants. he brought up all the dates hes planned and mentioned he doesn’t feel like he’s getting the same investment from me now and how he’s spent plenty of money and time on me. he said he really didn’t understand my perspective of needing more time. i didnt tell him i needed months but i said id hope to be talking to someone for at least around 6 weeks prior to getting into an actual relationship because despite how much ive enjoyed our time together i want to be realistic before making a big decision. but he said he just really couldn’t understand my perspective after we’ve spent so much quality time together and it makes him feel like i haven’t been as into it as him. after that he drove me home in silence and we haven’t addressed it. prior to this there had not a single complaint i could think of things had been going great. i do feel like this is a red flag for him to get so upset over me requesting some more weeks before we make a big decision. the way he addressed things made it feel so transactional when all the things he’s been doing i haven’t requested i just thought he was doing them because he wanted to, now it feels like he was doing them to get something in return. something else in the back of my mind with this issue is that i told him i wouldn’t sleep with anyone im not dating. im worried the physical aspect is at play when it comes to him pushing dating so soon. im debating ending things and my friends are divided on if im in the wrong or the right for that perspective. i just think it’s a red flag for him to want to move so fast and to be upset over me needing more than 2 and a half weeks. So would i be jumping the gun to end things now or is that the right move?
Edit: wow thank you for all the responses and advice so far! someone dmed me asking how i responded to him in the moment this so i’ll address that. I basically told him a long the lines of “i’ve seriously enjoyed the time we’ve spent together and have really loved getting to know you. the way things have been going yes dating has been in the back of my mind and i have felt like things are leading there. that being said though i wouldn’t be ready to make that official after only a couple weeks. normally i think after getting to know someone for around 2 months (little less or little more) is the perfect amount of time to make that decision. to me i want to make sure if im getting in a relationship i have 100% confidence it’s going to be something amazing. while ive really loved the time we’ve spent together i don’t want that to cloud my judgment and make me go about things unrealistically. i think we still have a lot to learn about each other to ensure that we are a compatible match. i just want to make sure im going about this in a smart way because that’s how you build a strong foundation not by rushing it. you already have been getting exclusively from me if that’s what your worried about. But as for making things official with being boyfriend and girlfriend all i need is some more time.”