Me 19M my girlfriend 18F have been dating for a few months now. We communicate great we talk about things romantically, sexually, and we know a lot about each other. And we both really love each other. The thing is sometimes we just sit in silence. I don’t feel like it’s awkward. And I’ll be cuddling with her and we both will be having a good time. I just have trouble making small talk or normal talk and my girlfriend doesn’t really try too Bh much to make small talk or normal talk even though she has said she wants too.
I guess I’m just wondering what are some things I can do to talk more or help her feel more confident to talk?
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Well, you can’t, it seems
I mean that sounds pretty normal if you guys still have conversations and fun together. You can’t always be chatting 24/7. Does it seem like an issue to you?
Do things together rather than sitting in silence. That’s a great way to generate conversation, build your relationship, and to create memories.
Quiet moments are OK. Sitting in silence is fine. Plan to sit on patio and have a glass of wine or a beer. Take walks and find trails to explore. Play outdoor games or swim. Go to concerts. Go to movies. Lot of room for silence and experience so when talking you have something to talk about.