I (24F) need to break up with my boyfriend (22m) but he still has 2 weeks left of his trip here..

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As the title states, my ldr boyfriend of 2.5 years is here visiting for 3.5 weeks. We have met up multiple times before (me going to him) but this is the first time hes come to me, and the longest visit we’ve had.

This was supposed to be our trial on living together, and honestly, Im glad it helped me realize what I did. In this first week he has:
* slept 10+ hours each day
* slept in late through date plans
* made comments about my eating habits and my body
* taken over my computer so he can play games every day
* not cooked a single meal
* refuses to eat my cooking (ex: I made chicken parm, he said he didnt like complex meals, only simple things like broths and wings. He ordered himself KFC after watching me eat my dinner)
* damaged items of mine
* said ALL of the above things happened because I “didnt set the expectation that he was not supposed to act like that,” and said this was his vacation time. (The weeks prior to his visit were spent with him daydreaming about planning events and dates, long nights talking about all our plans now that we had more time to spend, etc, etc.) This conversation was had after he slept through our date plans, where he kept repeating how he “just felt like a sh!tty partner,” and how he “can’t make up for what’s already happened so he just has to feel sh!tty” eye roll here

Mind you, I live alone, work full time and go to school. The third night he was here, he remarked how great it would be to live in a place like my apartment, and how we should push up our move-in timeline. Yeah, no.

This is not a “I might I break up with him” post. I am breaking up with him. My question is what is the best way to do so, given that he has 2 weeks left here? The airport he flew in from is an hour away. His tickets arent refundable and we cant we change the dates. Looking for advice on if I should just shoulder the cost of a return ticket and rip the bandaid off now, or if I should wait out these 2 weeks until he’s back home. Despite it all, I want him to have his support system when I call it quits.

Any and all advice helps!!
(Edit: format)

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  2. loughmountain Avatar

    Send him home now, 2 weeks sounds like an eternity

  3. lifeandart Avatar

    Yikes, this is one of those situations that is awkward both ways…

  4. politikitty Avatar

    How did he travel there? Did he fly? If not: send him home immediately. If he flew, figure out what airline he used, how complicated it will be to change his flights, get all of the information on how to do that so you have it ready (and it can’t be weaponized against you), etc.–and send him home. Immediately. It’s over! If he can’t figure out how to get himself home, that’s on him.

  5. peterwhitefanclub Avatar

    I’m kind of confused how you didn’t know he was like this already!

    Definitely would be worth buying his return ticket and getting him out now.

  6. NoArmadillo1377 Avatar

    Oof, get him out now. Either shoulder the cost of an early return ticket or put him up in a hotel, whichever is easiest for YOU and cheapest for YOU. Thank god you figured this out before he was living with you.