My fiancée calls and asks me if I want anything for dinner from Chick-fil-A. I say yes and text him my order. I know he works close to it and just got off work. This is 10 minutes from our place.
45 minutes later I call to check on him and he says he just finished eating his food and he’s about to head home. I asked if he had gotten mine yet and he said yes he ordered at the same time as his. I asked why he would sit in CFA and eat while my food is sitting there getting cold. He said he was hungry and wanted drink refills.
AITAH for thinking this is such a jerk thing to do?
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It’s 10 minutes from home, it’s selfish to eat it while your food is getting cold and you are going hungry. NTA.
He’s the asshole.
AW HELL NAH. Soggy cold waffle fries are a sin. NTA.
NTA. Find a new boyfriend.
Geez, dude, munch on fries on the way home if you’re that hungry, it’s 10 minutes. 🙄 NTA, that was 100% selfish of him. Least he could have done is waited and ordered your food after he was done eating rather than letting it get cold.
( Also: Obligatory bash for giving money to Bigot Bird, especially when there’s much better chicken out there… 🤣 )
NTA. If he wants to eat his meal in the restaurant he should have 1) warned you so you knew how long to wait 2) ordered your food before he’s done eating so your food doesn’t get cold
He’s either dumb or inconsiderate, probably both. NTA, if he had wanted the free refills, he could have ordered yours after eating.
Ok so why couldn’t he have eaten then gotten your food fresh before leaving?
Bare minimum. He didn’t tell you he decided to sit there for an extended period of time when you were waiting for him.
Next. If he did decide to sit. He could have been a decent human and order your food when he was done.
Lastly. Who makes their SO eat alone when you are getting food from the same place.
NTA.
I’m just baffled at this…haha. I mean if my husband brought me home food and I didn’t know he was going to CFA. I wouldn’t care if he ate it in the car. But he called you and asked for your order and proceeded to be gone 45 mins knowing you live right down the road. I would be more upset that he didn’t have the decency to tell me he was staying there. I’d be like “did you die or get mugged on your way home?” IDC that he ate his food at CFA, I’m upset that he was 10 mins away and I thought he’d be home lol. He can eat his food alone ID, lol.
Your boyfriend isn’t too bright is he? Guess he didn’t think of stuffing his face and having his fill of soda and then ordering your food so it would be hot?
NTA
Yeah it’s kind of an ass thing to do and pretty dumb but this is such a nothing problem just heat it up.
Some things are unforgivable. You gotta get rid of him
He’s the ah, nobody wants fast food that’s been sitting for an hour and it would have been simple to just order yours when he was done.
Nta: but your bf is! He gets to eat his food hot but you get cold food? I would’ve thought all the food would be brought home and you would eat together? He’s very selfish.
I read this whole thing like it was something that happened in cartoon. Like there was no way this was real cause like wtf 😂 NTA.
He could have at least called or texted you to let you know what he was gonna do. At the very least he could have ordered your food right as he was about to finish his so that it would stay hot until he gets home
YTA, he called and asked if you wanted some food, then paid for it and brought it to you. This is the last time I’d do something nice for you.
He just didn’t think to eat and THEN order your food. He prolly won’t make that mistake again.
Your BF is just dumb. You can’t fix that. He could have eaten and then ordered your food. He could have taken it all home. I don’t think he’s inconsiderate, just really stupid.
NTA, but am I the only one wondering why it took him 45 minutes to eat alone at Chick-fellatio? 10 minutes tops to eat a bigot bird sandwich and fries? It’s not a 3 course meal…no appetizers. Is he slamming back free refills for 30 minutes? Get the super big gulp and go home already? They don’t like your kind there. (I have no idea what your kind might be but given their diverse discrimination practices [only diverse things about the place] he’s bound to fall into at least one category. I believe I fall into at least 3 of their hated groups.)
In your post from yesterday, you had a fiance. He is your boyfriend now? This is just rage bait.
I thought he ate it on the way home…my wife hates when I do that , but I can house the drink some tenders and almost all my fries before I get home ..it’s about a mile away 3-5 min drive
You have a fiancé and a boyfriend?
Not really, and you can reheat? Would you rather have had him just not get you anything at all? I think it’s a silly thing to get upset over, yes, but now you also know to ask for more information instead of assuming. There are real problems in the world, this isn’t one of them. You’ve probably made him regret offering to get you anyting and including you at all.
He could have at least ordered it after he was done eating. Otherwise, it wouldn’t be a big deal to me. If it was, I would have gone out and gotten my own food. 🤷🏼♀️
his whole day revolves around getting free refills of cheap sugar water.
blame the marketing geniuses at ChickFilA for realizing how to brainwash consumers.
YTA – I cant believe people are normalizing getting mad over small things. Your boyfriend is kinda YTA because he should’ve ordered your food after he is done eating so your food remains warm BUT there are also factors like maybe he’s too tired and really hungry so he doesn’t want to go through the hassle of lining up and ordering again. Just a simple mistake on his part. Dont make it a big deal. Honestly women who gets mad OR argues with you over small things is draining. Be mature and tell him next time to order your food after he is done eating so your food is still warm when it gets to you.
NTA. So inconsiderate!
I’d guess he had a blonde moment.
NTA. But i don’t think he necessarily meant to be either. He just seems a little dumb.
Why is everyone calling Chic Fil A bigot bird?
Questions: Was this his first meal of the day? Does he work outdoors in the heat? Did he pay for your meal? Do you not have an oven to reheat your food so it’s still crispy?
Nothings wrong with him deciding to eat there for those reasons but he should’ve order your food afterwards. Also 45 minutes to eat a chicken sandwich is a long ass time
YTA. Next time he just shouldn’t buy you shit
NTA, he’s an ass or inconsiderate
Next time he should call and ask if you want CFA. Then say, “go get it yourself”.
Well if you order and eat at “hate chicken” both parties are AHs. I have zero sympathy.
Not being able to wait 10 mins is a whole other level of rude, selfish, and pigginess
NTA is he inconsiderate in other ways?
He’s eating there with someone else
NTA
Your bf is a selfish prick
Your bf is rude
Ntah. Most people would order and bring it all home. I have on occasion been hungry and always order my husbands food last after I am done eating so his will be fresh. But I’d let my partner know, if they were super hungry, I’d just come home with it. Ordering them at the same time, Letting it sit and get cold is just rude and inconsiderate.
Nah here. Who the fuck cares, this is not a huge deal
Reminds me of a book I read about raising boys. Author says he was at the beach with his family. As they’re getting ready to leave he tells his son & daughter to clean their sandy feet before getting in the car. Daughter wipes them off with a towel & gets in car. Son runs back to the shore, splashing water on his feet, runs back through the sand & gets in the car. It’s just the male mentality. 🤷🏻♀️🥰
He was very inconsiderate – or foolish. Why would he think you want cold food?!?
My dad once told me he was going to Starbucks, and asked if I wanted anything. I asked if he could get me hushpuppies at the restaurant next to it. He was gone for an hour. He picked up the hushpuppies for me and then he sat at Starbucks reading the newspaper and nursing his coffee. Love him, but man, he has NO common sense. I was pregnant and not a happy camper with nasty cold hushpuppies!
It’s not the most considerate thing in the world but I honestly think everyone is making way too big a deal out of it. I fully understand why someone who just got off work might want to just sit by themselves for a while before they go home. Tell him to keep you in the loop and wait until he’s about to leave to order your food if he does it again, but it’s not something I would start a fight over.
That was definitely a jerk move. He could’ve ordered yours when he went to refill his last drink.
YTA. WTF is wrong with you?
Your bf made a mistake – he should have been smarter. But the people saying that you should break up with him over this ONE thing are reaching. Based on the details you put in the story, in what universe would someone break up over cold fries? 😂😂 If that’s the barometer for breaking up, good luck to people moving forward.
NTA he could have just ordered your food when he was leaving instead of letting it sit there to get cold. Rude and inconsiderate.
But you both suck for giving your money to people who turn it around and give it to anti LGBTQ hate groups.
YTA, this is really over the top lol
He’s a jerk. He should have only gotten his if he was going to eat there and then get yours right before he left.
NTA!!! if he knew he wanted refills, he could’ve easily ordered it after he ordered his. chickfila is usually quick so it’s not like he would’ve waited long for your order. OR he could’ve easily asked the employees to bag your food when he left if he wanted it all on one ticket so badly. Some chickfilas are really accommodating with that.
I mean he was a little bit inconsiderate. The part where he wanted to eat at the place for the free refills is understandable. But if I went that way, first of all, I would have told my SO, but more importantly, I would have got her order when I was about to head out, so it stays warm.
that’s kind of a boneheaded move, or he was eating with someone.
NTA. If he wanted to stay and eat for the refills, fine. But he should have communicated that to you so you weren’t waiting and he should have placed your order right before he left to come home so your food would be hot. I do this for my husband all the time when I’m out with our child. Bringing home cold food is just plain rude.
NTA. A real man would take it to go and then stare into your eyes while eating. Just saying.
I’m sorry your homophobia tasted awful. Choose better next time.
What an ass. NTA
At least have the decency to order before you leave so it’s not cold!!
Sold u out for free-fkn-refills??? He’s the arsehol…
NTA. So…he brought you home cold fast food. Most fast food sucks once it cools off especially french fries. He’s inconsiderate. Hope you didn’t pay for the food.
Get you a boy that can multitask.
I got one hand on the steering wheel and am rummaging in the bag for fries with my other hand when I make a run for me and the Mrs.
Try it yourself. Make dinner before he gets home, eat your portion before he gets there, and leave his to get cold. When he asks, act exactly like he did. When he gets mad, ask why it’s okay for him to be mad but not okay for you. His reaction will tell you everything you need to know.
Believe what he’s showing you now about how your life will be if you actually marry him.
no one has pointed out that he could have picked you up and then went to eat there together as well
Is your bf 17?
NTA. Your finance is inconsiderate and has no common sense. If he wanted to stay and eat, cool whatever. It still shouldn’t take 45 minutes unless he ate everything on the menu. You stay, eat and then order your to go items before you clean up.
I just noticed he didn’t even order yours fresh after he ate.
He had yours just straight chillin’, getting all cold and soggy while he stuffed his face.
That’s fucked up!
NTA. If he wanted to eat there he should’ve got your food when he finished. He also should’ve let you know he wasn’t coming straight away
45 minutes to eat food at a fast food restaurant is pretty darn slow. And your BF is inconsiderate to say the least.
Chik Fil A? You’re both assholes.
Prolly going to get down voted but ESH
He was doing you a favor, he didnt specify one way or another if he was on his way immediately or what. Maybe he was having a stomach ache or just needed a sec to decompress and get his head straight. We’ve all had wonk days. He sucks for not ordering the food after he ate, and who the hell takes 45 min to eat? Either way, there isn’t much info other than you are upset he didnt bring the food home as soon as he got it. We could speculate all day about motivations and stuff, or you could just have a simple conversation and deal with it.
NTA. I get maybe wanting to chill and unwind alone after work for a bit but he should have ordered your food when he was getting ready to leave.
The etiquette is to eat first and order yours before heading home
ZOMG…he should have waited to order yours after he at at the very least!!
Nt at all they call it fast food for a reason. If he was gonna eat there, he should’ve ordered for himself and then ordered yours on his way out.