My boyfriend and I got into a fight a few days ago. I know his reddit from a year ago but don’t look at it cause I never felt the need to or thought about it. However, after this fight I decided to search to see if he talks about our relationship on reddit at all. He does not. I found a post that he had created though about the Tijuana red light district. Apparently he is planning a bachelor party there which he never brought up to me. In this subreddit everyone is talking about sex workers and arribas. From his post I cannot tell if that is his intention just that he is a planning a bachelor party there. However he did mention in a comment asking someone about condoms which we do not use which then made me spiral as he did not mention he was planning or going to a bachelor party soon. I just don’t know what to think. I don’t know if I should bring this up to him or wait for him to bring it up.
EDIT: Bachelor party is for his friend
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Massive red flag. 🚩 you know it. Don’t let him gas light you, and that the condoms are for the others.
What’s the point of bringing it up? You know what he’s planning to do there. Sure you can discuss it but do you expect some reasoning behind why he’s going to need a condom? You want to live with a man who wants to shag someone after you two fight.. ask yourself.. do you want to be in a relationship with someone like him?
Girl!!
He is proactively planning to cheat. Do not marry him under any circumstances. It will just get worse.
And once you have kids or a mortgage it gets harder to untangle.
Get out now
So you went full stalker mode on your boyfriend’s year-old Reddit account because of a fight, found nothing directly incriminating, and now you’re having a meltdown over a bachelor party he hasn’t even told you about yet? Newsflash: it’s a bachelor party, not a church retreat. And you’re freaking out over a random comment about condoms like that somehow proves he’s cheating? That’s a reach so far it should win a gold medal. He didn’t lie—you were never invited to that conversation because it clearly wasn’t about you. Maybe instead of acting like his parole officer, you should take a long, hard look at why you’re so quick to assume the worst. Honestly, if I were him, I’d be way more concerned about your behavior than anything he posted.
>From his post I cannot tell if that is his intention just that he is a planning a bachelor party there.
I’d be concerned he’s dumb enough to use his regular account to discuss sex tourism. That feels like it would come back to bite you. Does the bride to be know her future husband wants to sample the red light district in Tijuana? Do any of the wives and girfriends of the rest of the party know? I feel like that may spark a discussion.
Dump this guy. He has zero respect for you or women in general.
Also, get tested because you don’t know what else he’s been doing.
He’s totally planning on cheating at least once, if not the entire time. You need to tell him you know everything and it’s over. You’ll never be able to trust him after this.Â