The other day I asked my boyfriend of 5 years why he hasn’t ate me out in a long time I wondered what was wrong with me he told me that I turn him off because I’m always wearing pyjamas when he’s round I am eating snacks and never shaved but these are only sometimes there has been plenty occasions where I have been shaved and dressed up where he’s never tried. I thought we could be comfortable with each other. He doesn’t ever want to please me he told me that it’s uncomfortable for his neck and he doesn’t get anything from it but he still expects me to suck his dick. Then today I got in the car he told me that the smell of onion comes through my pores as I had eaten tomato soup earlier on. He told me that the things I eat put him off and that’s why he won’t eat me out. I feel really embarrassed and ashamed. What can I do to help this situation?
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Break up with him and find someone who isn’t an asshole?
Girl stop giving that selfish man head for one. It sounds like he just does not wanna do it honestly
Girl there’s men out there who would eat you out and not care if you eat tomato soup.
Tell him he tastes like rotten asparagus
Wash yourself? Maybe it stinks. Like I’ve encountered girls with a bad smell down there and I’m not going to town on it.
It sounds like this relationship may have run its course.
Run, don’t walk.
You deserve better! He sounds selfish.
This guy clearly hates you
girl STAND UP, my man is an absolute munch, even though i always try to say no cause i take too long to finish and i feel bad but he still doesnt care, ofc i absolutely love it but im just pointing out THERE ARE MEN WHO WOULDNT THINK TWICE
It sounds like he’s giving every excuse he can think of to not bother doing it, plain and simple. Because he doesn’t get anything from it? Who said you feel great giving him head? He wouldn’t care, he just wants it anyway. Fuck that. You deserve much better.
Oh, is it uncomfortable for his neck? Why doesn’t he try sucking someone off and see how his neck, throat and jaw feel?
It’s almost like we do things for people we love because we love them, not because it brings us benefit.
Hey, OP? You deserve pleasure and you deserve a partner who wants to give you pleasure.
If your bf is selfish here, I’m sure it translates into other areas of your lives, too. Don’t let a loser keep you down. You are worth so much more.
Do you actually smell or is he just acting like a child? Regardless I’ve never had a problem with oral even when my PH feels off, my partner loves me no matter what and enjoys it. That’s what you need 😮💨
Sounds like excuses, don’t give him head if he ain’t giving you any
This guy sucks.
A lot of heterosexual men do not actually like women. They love them. They want to date them. They do not want to treat them with the same respect they afford their male friends. It’s weird.
Are you sure you are his girlfriend or a sex bot! For his only pleasure!
I’m bothered by the part where he said he’s turned off by you in pajamas and eating snacks. This guy does not like you. Whatever is going on with him is deeper than just refusing to go down on you because his neck hurts. He is not attracted to you in the way a loving partner should be. Your smell is likely fine. He just isn’t into you anymore. This relationship may have ran its course if this is a new development in the last 5 years.