My (22F) family and I are going on a trip soon. There was some miscommunication about my travel dates. My guardian Jennifer and my auntie Sarah asked me what days I can get off work. I told them that my dates were August 7–10, while everyone else’s dates were August 7–11.
One of my other family members, Nina, booked the flights for everyone. I didn’t know she was the one booking — I thought Jennifer or Sarah were booking the flights were taking care of it or would tell whoever was booking since they were the ones who asked me about my PTO. This has never been an issue before — usually if I tell them my dates for family trips, they handle it.
When the tickets were sent out, I realized my flight was for 7–11 instead of 7–10. I told the Nina and she gave me her card to rebook the flight and asked me not to tell my other guardian Ashley about the $175, because she would be upset/angry about it (Ashley pays for the trips usually).
Today, Nina told Jennifer about it. Jennifer then told me it was unfair for Nina to cover the cost and that I should’ve made sure to communicate my dates directly to Nina to avoid a mishap. But I honestly didn’t know who was booking and assumed Jennifer or Sarah were handling the bookings since they asked me the dates and it hasn’t been an issue in the past.
Now Jennifer wants me to pay the $175 myself, but I don’t have that money right now. If I’d known who was actually booking, I definitely would’ve double-checked. I know now in the future if my plans are different to double check, it’s just never been a problem before so I had no reason to think it would be different this time. Also side note all of m.y family members mentioend are 50s
So, AITA for not double-checking? And what should I do?
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My (22F) family and I are going on a trip soon. There was some miscommunication about my travel dates. My guardian Jennifer and my auntie Sarah asked me what days I can get off work. I told them that my dates were August 7–10, while everyone else’s dates were August 7–11.
One of my other family members, Nina, booked the flights for everyone. I didn’t know she was the one booking — I thought Jennifer or Sarah were booking the flights were taking care of it or would tell whoever was booking since they were the ones who asked me about my PTO. This has never been an issue before — usually if I tell them my dates for family trips, they handle it.
When the tickets were sent out, I realized my flight was for 7–11 instead of 7–10. I told the Nina and she gave me her card to rebook the flight and asked me not to tell my other guardian Ashley about the $175, because she would be upset/angry about it (Ashley pays for the trips usually).
Today, Nina told Jennifer about it. Jennifer then told me it was unfair for Nina to cover the cost and that I should’ve made sure to communicate my dates directly to Nina to avoid a mishap. But I honestly didn’t know who was booking and assumed Jennifer or Sarah were handling the bookings since they asked me the dates and it hasn’t been an issue in the past.
Now Jennifer wants me to pay the $175 myself, but I don’t have that money right now. If I’d known who was actually booking, I definitely would’ve double-checked. I know now in the future if my plans are different to double check, it’s just never been a problem before so I had no reason to think it would be different this time. Also side note all of m.y family members mentioend are 50s
So, AITA for not double-checking? And what should I do?
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> My action was not being proactive in telling my family member that my travel dates were different than everyone else’s. It might’ve been inconsiderate and entitled of me to assume that it would be handled, which would make me the asshole. I just want an outside opinion
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This is not your fault. Don’t feel guilty!
When did they ask you about your travel dates?
NTA, Jennifer & Sarah should absolutely have passed on the details to Nina OR Nina herself should have checked with you. They messed up.
YTA you should have checked who was booking and made sure they knew your dates. Mistakes happen.
NTA Jennifer is not being fair or even logical. She was the one who asked you about which dates you were free to travel, yet didn’t tell you that Nina would be the one doing the booking. This being the case, you had no way to even consider confirming directly with Nina. If Jennifer really thought that direct confirmation was necessary, then she was the weak link in the chain who failed to pass on the info that Nina was the one doing the bookings.
But the fact is that she doesn’t really think this, or at least is only thinking this way in retrospect. She just feels bad that Nina is paying and is casting blame on you because Nina’s mistake was in regard to your booking, and she’s looking for a reason to pass the responsibility for paying on to you.
NTA, they should confirm this first with everyone by sending everyone the email. I’m like confused how are you at 22 having guardians?
AITA just because you’re so entitled. Why is someone else paying for your flights in the first place… I don’t get this at all
NTA. The person booking the trip is the one who should have checked to confirm dates. This one was Nina’s mistake.