I’m a 15F but only recently (like starting last year) thought I could be into girls. I’m still really confused about it though. I’ve had one crush on a guy in like 7th grade and the idea of a guy liking me always felt nice and I used to fan girl over fictional guys, but the idea of actually being with a real guy just doesn’t sound nice to me like the idea of being with a girl. On top of that my older sister likes women (used to identify as a lesbian now bi) and I feel like I’ve only started being attracted to women after figuring out that she liked women. My sister has always been someone I look up to, this has me wondering if I actually like girls at all or if I just like the idea of into them because my older sister is. But at the same time I’ve had many hallway crushes (and a minor crush on a girl from my class) on girls so it’s confusing.
I’m really confused
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Honestly, sounds like you’re figuring stuff out and that’s totally normal. Crushes are weird and messy, and it’s okay if things don’t make perfect sense yet. Just let yourself feel stuff without overthinking every part of it you don’t need all the answers at 15.
It’s okay to be unsure, attraction isn’t math, it’s a feeling, and feelings can take time. Just know this: admiring your sister doesn’t cancel out your own heart. What you feel is real, even if it’s still unfolding.
You’re 15.
Here’s a little secret, every 15 year old is confused about something. You don’t need to figure this out now.
Slow down, take it easy, and explore your feelings with girls and guys you know and trust, and you’ll find what is right for you in time.
It sounds like your sister has probably had some of these feelings, so if you really need to talk to someone, I’d suggest starting there.
I don’t know if you’re implying this, but FYI genetics have no bearing on sexuality.
Lots of stuff to think about, just take your time and don’t stress yourself out about it. You’ll figure out out in time.
take your time. Just observe yourself and your feelings. Everything will become clearer in time
It is normal for the teenage mind to be attracted to same sex sometimes…. You will figure it out in time. D some reading on the subject.
All of your feelings are valid, its okay to be confused and you dont need to assign yourself a label if you dont want to. You can just be attracted to who you are attracted to