My boyfriend (32M) and I (26F) have been together for 8 months. We really like each other, and the sex is great. We still struggle for me to come during sex, but that’s an issue on my part and mostly anxiety related. He was also my first.
I have a high sex drive and am always thinking about how much I want to have sex with my boyfriend. I find it hard to bring up though cause I get embarrassed and don’t want to scare him off. He has told me numerous times how much he loves having sex with me. He actually admitted that our sexual compatability is amazing, and he has never really been able to get hard so quick right after having sex with someone. I’ve also told him that I am always horny. The past few weeks we’ve done it once a day, which is great! But I would love to do it 2 times if not 3. He admitted yesterday that he jacked off twice in the shower cause of how horny he was. I asked why he didn’t come to me, and he said it’s cause he didn’t want to bother me. I made it clear that it is understandable that sometimes you just wanna jack off and don’t want the hustle if sex. But it did make me think “damn, we could have had sex twice”. I know how toxic that sounds and we still had sex twice that night đ. But why can I not get it out of my mind? I still am stuck on him not coming to me because he doesn’t wanna bother me???
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In my opinion, he doesn’t want u (also himself) to think that his only using you and only has lust for u.
Lmao it doesnât sound toxic, it sounds like you found someone who matches you.
Have some confidence and tell his ass straight to come and see you. The first time he does, if it goes well, it will happen and youâll get what you want.
Itâs not about bothering, from a guys point of view, itâs being seen as a creep or a pest for wanting their partner. Heâs just trying to toe the line, you can break that line wide open for him if you choose to.
If you donât actually communicate to him that you would be more than enthusiastic about having sex twice or three times a day then this will not change. You need to learn to communicate instead of being upset your partner cannot read your mind.
This isnât toxic at all. Itâs a non-issue. You just need to have open communication. After a few times of it actually happening, he will relax and most definitely feel comfortable coming onto you more. Heâs just trying to not come off as a pushy, âI only care about sexâ type of guy, which is actually considerate of him. If anything, it sounds like youâre on the precipice of making a great stride in your relationship!
Not toxic at all, you both just need to communicate! He probably doesnât want you to feel used or feel like heâs only with you for sexual. Honestly, a huge green flag! Iâd just have a conversation with him and tell him your sex drive is just as high
I just wish people would talk to their partners đ