Whenever we get into an argument, his first resort is asking ChatGPT. He asks ChatGPT for advice, to create paragraphs, and for its opinion on ANYTHING. ChatGPT doesn’t have feelings, I DO.
We got into an argument recently, and he told my friend that ChatGPT told him to break up with me. He hasnt texted me back and is ignoring/avoiding me.
I’m not sure what I’m supposed to do now. what CAN i do in this situation?
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How old is your boyfriend?
Edit – I’m asking because all of this especially the telling the friend what he should be telling you , sounds very immature.
My friend is going through something similar, whenever he’s in need of a partner or needs emotional support, she uses chatgpt to respond to him and even admitted to it. Imo, if you can’t talk to your partner without the help of an ai, you don’t deserve to be with that person. If you want to keep this relationship, talk to him. If you’ve already checked out and he’s showing the same signs, it might be time to move on
ChatGBT doesn’t have feelings, but it has logic. Facts > feelings when it comes to arguments. I’m with your boyfriend on this one. Not much you can do except maybe apologize and convince him you’ll change?
Your BF can’t think for himself. Think on that for a while.
I think he needs to realise that the AI will be on his side no matter what because it’s his story he’s telling.
Because of that, he can’t see it as some omniscient being that knows more about his relationship than he does. It’s just gonna cause problems for you both.
Odd behaviour ngl.
Ask ChatGPT?
okay, first, your feelings here are completely valid. it does feel awful to know someone’s turning to a machine for answers about your relationship instead of coming to you, the actual person he’s dating. what hurts isn’t just that he’s using AI, it’s that he’s outsourcing emotional labor, communication, and decision-making instead of engaging with you directly, like a partner should. and that’s not just immature, it’s avoidant. relationships require presence, accountability, and emotional risk, none of which can be replaced by copy-pasting a paragraph from a chatbot, no matter how “well-written” it is. if someone’s using AI as a shield from having to actually feel things or face hard conversations, that’s not emotional intelligence, that’s emotional cowardice. and on top of that, he told your friend that “ChatGPT told him to break up with you”? that’s not just unkind, it’s deeply passive. instead of showing up, he’s hiding behind a screen, letting an algorithm make decisions for him, and letting you twist in the silence. that’s not partnership. so here’s the hard truth, you can’t control what he does, but you can choose not to wait around for someone who’s avoiding you while blaming a chatbot for their choices. you deserve a relationship with someone who shows up, not just physically, but emotionally, honestly, humanly. if he wants to delegate his communication to a robot, that says more about him than it does about you. let him. you? you don’t need a response from him to choose your own self-respect.
DTMFA and find someone with a brain.
You can’t change how your BF solves problems. You can ask him to take a look at it, and bring up how his over-utilization of ChatGPT to solve real issues in your relationship is only causing more problems… that he then goes back to ChatGPT for advice on.
While AI can be a helpful resource for researching, we’ve unfortunately got a lot of people using it for quick answers to life in questions that simply can’t be answered by a computer. The original intent—quicker research assistance than search algorithms like Google—blew up far to the wayside when people learned how well LLMs could write and speak… better than the average literate human being. It’s unfortunate, but sometimes the way to get a cheap, quick answer to a question has shifted from Googling and finding and reading pages written by people, to getting the entire answer delivered by AI. The obvious flaws are for situations like yours.
All you really CAN do is bring up how annoying it is, and that he’s going to let software decide for him on continuing the relationship. If his heart is set in letting AI more or less make decisions for him, there’s little you can do to change that outside of a conversation with him. And that conversation doesn’t guarantee that he will stop or even listen to you, the only guarantee is that you get to speak your grievances out to the party who is hurting you. Change from those words is up to him, and the very human decision to leave because of it is up to you and him, not ChatGPT.
Ask chatGPT not tesdit
That’s literally insane. Your bf has no ability to think critically.
AI is a great tool, but for him? Yeah, it’s making him dumber.
let him break up with you. he’s emotionally immature and cant think for himself enough to effectively communicate. it sounds like you’re dodging a bullet tbh.
i am genuinely sorry this has happened, it seems really stupid that he’s breaking up with you because an AI that isn’t sentient and doesn’t have feelings told him to. But it shows that this is a problem on his end, it has nothing to do with you.
How old is he? To judge the level of maturity or lack of…
I would simply not be in a relationship where my partner uses chatGPT to answer me or debate. Utterly ridiculous (I use chatGPT daily at work).
Damn this sounds concerning.
This does not help him in getting better at communication at all. It takes the work out of his head. It’s kinda sad he cannot think for himself.
South Park vibes
stand up. that’s what you do. Your man can’t think on his own without an AI. Leave.
Dump his ass. Use Chat GPT to generate an explanation of why relying on AI chat bots to manage your real life relationships is a terrible fucking idea.
You do not want to be with a loser like this.
I fear we are going to see more and more of this. Users really dont understand what LLMs are.
Honestly he sounds like he sucks, let chat gpt keep this one
He’s an idiot. Block him & forget him. He can buy a rubber AI girlfriend from Japan.
Are you sure he’s still your boyfriend? If he’s ignoring and avoiding you, it doesn’t sound like he is.
wtf why would you stay with this person?
We’re doomed
You can break up, is what you can do. Ignoring the fact that you apparently argue so much that he has resorted to using an AI to respond to you, that’s just stupid.
just ghost him back, you don’t want a boyfriend who can’t think for himself lol