I 18m was talking to this girl for about a week 18f until she became good friends with my Exgirlfriend, the breakup was pretty horrible for me and I was to insecure to continue pursing her while she was friends with me ex.
She continued to pursue me, even though I basically stopped talking to her and she even went so far as to stop being friends with my ex to get close to me. I was very emotionally conflicted and didn’t want her to stop being friends with her as well so I ignored her, because it also seemed like a red flag.
But her, 18f heard from a teacher that I was going to a collage out of province and that’s why I rejected her, so she decided to change the college she’s going to and pick the same one as me.
She even went further to get close to my mom, who is now relatively disgusted with me because I called her a stalker behind closed doors. Just me and my dad were talking. She thinks she’s just immature, and now I’m not sure if I want to date her or not. If she is just immature then the relationship could turn out well, because I knew her long enough to know that we have similar personalities/hobbies. But I’m still scared if we date she will go nuclear on me after a few months and I’ll become a social pariah of our college.
Any advice on this would lovely.
TLDR: a girl I was talking to who I rejected previously followed me to college, but my mom really likes her and at some point I liked her too at one point, so I’m wondering if she might be a good fit?
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Date her if you have feelings for her
If no feeling, wait a little more u might actually come across someone whom u really want to date
Whats the time frame? And how do you know she changed schools for you?
Am I correct that you don’t CURRENTLY like her? Don’t date people you’re not attracted to. She may really want a relationship: that also involves wanting you to be attracted to her. You would not be doing her any favors. She does sound immature (normal at her age) and is definitely pushing boundaries more than is healthy. If you’ve felt that she was a stalker, you should follow your gut and stay away.
No. You don’t have feelings for her and imo, she’s being way too forward and pushy. You don’t have to talk to someone just because they’re the loudest and you’re bored.
As a former obsessive teenage girl, the best thing you can do for this girl is to keep your distance. Wait for someone to come along that makes you feel excited to talk to them.