I’m a 28-year-old and I have never had sex. I feel ready. We barely know each other. We talked for a week and then we met up. We made out. It was the best makeout session I’ve ever had. We are now in a relationship. But family and friends say once he gets what he wants he’ll leave and that he’s using me. He claims he would never use somebody and he’s been cheated on. He claims he wants long-term. He also said I stole his heart. Our conversations are more than just sexual. We Bond over our love for music and for poetry.
I’m going to give in this weekend. I feel like he’s being genuine. But based on what my family says I’m worried. They say to wait longer but I’m tired of waiting. He really turns this good girl into an animal. I don’t know what to do. This is pretty important to me.
I want to have sex with my new boyfriend but I’m worried
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Would personally wait to see if he is pushy for it. So maybe wait another week, but your call, sounds like a decent person.
As a man. I remember at that age, sex was a very important part of my life. Probably for all the wrong reasons. I wouldn’t recommend having sex with him right away though. You only get one first shot. You do you… but it is something to take serious.
Take your time. If someone is going to leave you time will tell. You can only fake being genuine for so long.
Also, you don’t want to come off “too easy” by having sex too quickly. Just my advice.
“But family and friends say once he gets what he wants he’ll leave and that he’s using me.”
Why tf is your family involved in your sex life?
Wait 2 more weeks. Get together a few more times
Yeah I would say take your time. Let him show you through actions that he’s not going to leave. Not just through what he’s saying. That will truly build trust and show if he’s a keeper
And it’s a very important that you feel very comfortable with him to make that big leap. However, it is God’s creation that we should meet mate. Have fun.
These people saying to wait are not listening to you.
“I feel ready.” You sound ready! It is good to be nervous, this is important to you.
Yes, he might run away after this- it’s true. Even boys who do not truly intend for this to happen, it happens anyway. This will not transform your decision into a mistake- you cannot control his choices, only your own.
You feel confident? You feel ready? Go for it! Use protection, bring a towel. Enjoy! 😉
There’s nothing wrong with this choice as it has been presented in your thread. You waited longer than most of us, and you feel confident and safe with him- what else should you wait for?
Don’t let your friends and family cloud your judgment. Trust your gut and see how he treats you!! your opinion is the only one that matters
Make sure to use protection.
Ask him the last time he was screened for STIs
I know this isn’t what you were asking, but it’s important.
Wait you’re dating someone you barely know lol?
If you’re just corny, you can do other things. If it’s actually love and he’s not pressuring you, what’s the rush? You do you.
I don’t regret my first time. We were in love, and it was “magical,” but it was special. The question you want to ask yourself is: Is this the guy I want to remember the rest of my life, even if it doesn’t work out?
It’s all about initiative and intuition
2 weeks,14 days? This is you, your life. Has he asked you to marry him. Sorry I don’t see it. If you are too hot there are toys you can take to bed with you.