I want to make it clear, I’m not into him or men in general. Also I am not fond of her boyfriend, nothing bad he’s just super pessimistic and they are inseparable, we never see her alone, she even added him to our friends group chat.
I always kinda assumed it wasn’t going to last none of her ex’s were ever that serious, so I never really bothered getting to know him that much but they have been together for two years and get are discussing marriage and kids so I decided that I should try and work on my friendship with him since he’s going to be in our lives long term.
Anyway, I’ve been making an effort to both think of him as a friend and treat him like one. I’ve been asking him about himself and we have a few joint interests so I’ve been talking to him about them. I donated money for a charity run he’s done and liked a few Instagram posts he made about it (she is in the posts) and last week I saw this collectable in a charity shop I know he really wanted, it was £1 so I got it him and gave it him. Just generally friendly stuff, things I do for her and all my other friends.
She met with me alone a few hours ago, which is unusual because I’ve not seen her without him since they got together, they even work in the same place. She was angry, telling me he’d never be into me over her even if he thought I was hot, (which was news to me), I told her I’m glad he’s not and reminded her that I wasn’t into him or any man and even if I was I’d never do that to her. She seems to be under the impression that her bf is an Adonis that anyone would be insane not to be into, I think he is just a normal looking guy.
Anyway she said if we want to remain friends I need to “check myself” and I have no idea what to do.
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It sounds like your intentions were good, but your friend may be feeling insecure or territorial. It might help to acknowledge her feelings without being defensive just clarify again that you’re not into him and only wanted to build a friendship for her sake. If she still can’t trust that, the issue might be more about her than you.
Your friend definitely has insecurities and should work on them. Because from what I read, you did nothing wrong, all this is very random or basically friendly, no more.
Check yourself out.
All I will say is – He’s not your friend. You’re buying gifts for someone who isn’t your friend.
I think that’s why she has issues.