We have three upstairs rooms, one downstairs. My Roomate was in the downstairs room. When I got a subletter, my Roomates requested that my downstairs roommate move into my room while I was gone, and the subletter could take the downstairs room. Months later, I find out after asking her that she refused to give my room back, going on to give reasons why I didn’t deserve the room. We talked about it, I told her how upset I was, especially considering this was not what we agreed upon, but she said we didn’t have an official agreement. I told her if she wasn’t going to give me my room back, I was going to find a different place to live. When I texted them all to say I was probably going to move out, none of them responded to me. I went and got a subletter, now all of them are upset at me because I did not approve it with them. Now, they are not speaking to me, but these were some of my close friends. As per usual, I feel like I’m in the wrong, and I’m really trying to see it from their side. This is like the one time that I fully decided to stand up for myself.
Aitah for moving out of my house because my Roomate took my room while I was studying abroad
r/AITAH
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you left your room, not your identity and she stole your space, disrespected your boundaries and gaslit you when you stood up for yourself, good for you.
Nta. You had an agreement. She is backpedaling saying it wasn’t official. If it’s not official, you can officially move out.
nta
You didn’t approve of not getting your room back, they can’t complain about approval.
NTA. You stood up for yourself when she didn’t respect your space, good on you! I once lost a friend who pulled a similar stunt, it stings but hey, better they show their true colors now.
Nta,
They aint your friend, they’re are bunch of not so nice word
NTA
They started the not communicating this. Just ignore them and move on in life.
NTA. Move far away from such people who don’t respect your space or boundaries. What official agreement was she expecting? There was no official agreement for her to take your room. Tf? Speaking of, are the rooms linked to corresponding roommates in your official rental agreement? If so, at least that is something official.
Now you see, they weren’t really your friends shake the dust off and go live your best life