My boyfriend and I (M&F, both 30, together 10 years) generally go to bed at 11pm during the week. However, my BF falls asleep downstairs on the sofa around 9-10pm while we’re watching TV like 90% of the time, then wakes up when I’m ready to go to bed and we go through the bedtime routine (put the dog to bed, get water, brush teeth, etc.)
It always annoys me that I instigate the bedtime routine because I’m ready to go to bed, but he rushes to get to the bathroom first so he can be in bed first. If he’s so desperate to be in bed, why not go to bed earlier rather than falling asleep on the sofa?
Even though I am actually ready to go to bed, I always have to put the dog to bed, lock up, and then wait for him to finish up in the bathroom before I can get settled.
It’s a minor thing but it’s bugged me for years so I’m wondering what other people’s thoughts are – would it annoy you?
He also insists that we go to bed together. If I’m ready to go to bed earlier than he is, he whines for me to wait 10 mins until he’s ready. If I refuse, he goes to bed at the same time as me (and the above happens yet again). What’s wrong with going to bed in your own?!
TL;DR Would it annoy you if your partner insisted on going to bed at the same time but also them being in bed first?
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go do your bedtime first, then wake him. then go get in bed.
Have you considered getting up and doing your bedtime routine before you wake him back up?
Do your personal routine first.
If you’re ready to go to bed earlier, go to bed. If he wants to go to bed together, then on the nights you’re ready to go to bed early, he can go to bed with you. Just say “I’m ready for bed.”
I can attest that once you get comfy on the couch, you don’t want to move – even when you know you should go to bed – you just don’t want to get out of that comfy space.
I have no idea about the rush to beat you into the bathroom. That just seems silly.