I 37F was out on the golf course during a holiday weekend. So, I was out golfing with a friend and my boyfriend. We were paired up with this older gentleman golfer, probably in his 60s. My friend got everyone in the group a round of holiday shots. I asked the cart girl if she could take our photo with the shots. After we took the shots, the gentleman asked if I could send him the picture so he could show it to his wife. I said sure, no problem.
My boyfriend claims he never heard this comment.
After the round of golf, everyone went their separate ways. But I ran into the man in the parking lot while my boyfriend was returning the cart. I said, “Hey, sorry I forgot about sending the picture, but if you give me your number, I’ll send it.” My boyfriend walked up to hear the conversation. I had nothing to hide, so I wasn’t worried about him saying anything.
Well, needless to say, it caused a very long and drawn-out argument that’s still going on weeks later. Am I the asshole? I’m curious to hear what other people think because in my mind, it was very innocent. But in my boyfriend’s mind, it was practically breakup-worthy.
EDIT to add more information: after I sent the man the picture, he responded with a simple “thanks ___”. My boyfriend sent him another text back saying something along the lines of “don’t ever text this number again” and deleted the text
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I 37F was out on the golf course during a holiday weekend. So, I was out golfing with a friend and my boyfriend. We were paired up with this older gentleman golfer, probably in his 60s. My friend got everyone in the group a round of holiday shots. I asked the cart girl if she could take our photo with the shots. After we took the shots, the gentleman asked if I could send him the picture so he could show it to his wife. I said sure, no problem.
My boyfriend claims he never heard this comment.
After the round of golf, everyone went their separate ways. But I ran into the man in the parking lot while my boyfriend was returning the cart. I said, “Hey, sorry I forgot about sending the picture, but if you give me your number, I’ll send it.” My boyfriend walked up to hear the conversation. I had nothing to hide, so I wasn’t worried about him saying anything.
Well, needless to say, it caused a very long and drawn-out argument that’s still going on weeks later. Am I the asshole? I’m curious to hear what other people think because in my mind, it was very innocent. But in my boyfriend’s mind, it was practically breakup-worthy.
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NTA and if your boyfriend, having heard your explanation, wants to break up with you over this, let him. I mean, maybe you should be breaking up over his reaction, which is way out of line. You did nothing wrong.
🚩 behavior.
“in my boyfriend’s mind, it was practically breakup-worthy.” You’re obviously NTA, but if this is how your boyfriend behaves, let the trash take itself out.
NTA. Holy overreaction, Batman! Is he always like this? And arguing about this for weeks? Yikes.
nta follow bf’s advice, his jealousy will take you down.
NTA
> in my boyfriend’s mind, it was practically breakup-worthy.
But frankly, this reaction is.
I think your bf is being really insecure. You did everything in the open and it was an innocent interaction.
If he wants to leave and has that little trust in you, shit let him.
Info: Is your bf usually a burning pile of red flags or is this isolated behavior?
NTA. Your boyfriend is very jealous and insecure.
NTA. When someone blows up so hard over something so innocent with no history on your part to provoke it, I always assume “projection”. Either he cheated or got burned by an ex who did and can’t process that rationally.
Yep. NTA. He’s most likely insecure because he has 50 other girls numbers in his phone and now he thinks you’re just like him. Cut him loose.
That is a huge red flag and is going to show up in major ways more and more. Do NOT marry this man. Trust me. You will very much regret your choice. No matter how much he love bombs you. He’s going to lock you down like Fort Knox the minute you say I do!
Dumb the insecure little witch , he’s that upset over a damn group picture. You are heading into a sad situation
Good chance he’s projecting. NTA but let the trash take itself out
NTA. If your bf is making a big deal about it weeks later, I would wonder who he’s given his number to, because it sounds like he’s projecting.
Definitely NTA just being nice to the guy.
bro is BEYOND insecure. NTA
Your bf’s the AH. No questions. Does he try to control other portions of your life too? Red flag.
Leave him first. He’s a joke.
GET OUT OF THAT RELATIONSHIP NOW.
His reaction is break up worthy. You are sending a picture to him for him and his wife. Your boyfriend needs to grow up. He is very immature and not worth it. Life is too short.
You’re NTA.
>My boyfriend sent him another text back saying something along the lines of “don’t ever text this number again” and deleted the text
Deal breaker for me. Does he think he has ultimate power over whom you are permitted to text?
NTA. Sounds like your boyfriend is a bit insecure. I’m guessing you didn’t use the number other than to send the picture, what does he have to be mad about? Your bf should be able to let it go.
Your boyfriend is a jerk. He needs to grow up
NTA and also end that relationship
NTA. People that insecure have something to hide. I’d check his phone/social media to see what he’s hiding. He’s surely projecting his own secrets.
Forgive me but i am not sure if we have the whole story. The way i see it why was picture or number not shared when you clicked it if you guys were golfing together.
If you didn’t care to share the picture when it was clicked then why did you care when you met him in the parking lot, you could have just let it go and not worry about it. i feel meeting in parking lot is not accidental.
Am speculative, if you told us the whole story then your boyfriend is the asshole… part of me feels that you did not share the complete story.
NTA Tell your bf to grow a dick and send him a video of you fucking the dude. That’s the shit he’s insecure about and if he wants to draw it out like you owe him your fuckimg servitude put him in his place and leave his stupid ass.
Don’t let nobody tell you what you can and can’t do baby, tell the haters see ya laters.
Is your boyfriend a child? Nta
From what you have said you have done nothing wrong, but he clearly has issues
NTA. Let me get this straight, your bf is jealous of a 60 y.o man? Is he broke and thinking you’re moving up? His insecurities are showing and you need to boot him. He’s too old to be in a middle school mindset.
NTA and he frankly sounds like hes harping on it because hes already cheated or he wants an excuse to break up
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The problem with this is that your boyfriend is not only thinking the other man has nefarious intent, he also doesn’t trust you to handle the situation appropriately. NTA.