My boyfriend isn’t smart and it’s really frustrating me. We just had an argument about evolution and religion and he kept insisting that Adam and Eve weren’t religious at all and that evolution wasn’t real. The evolution part is his opinion, sure but the Adam and Eve part is religious. Like theres no denying that. And then, just today, we had an argument about continents and countries and races. He said that Japanese people weren’t Asian and insisted that Indian people also weren’t Asians, despite me telling him that yes, they are still Asians because they are in Asia. Then he insists that Germans aren’t Europeans and are instead, Germans. I told him that yes Germans are still Europeans but he kept saying that they don’t call themselves Europeans, they call themselves german. I stopped arguing with him right then and there because I literally was speechless. I don’t know what to do. I don’t know if he’s messing with me or if he’s serious. But I am not sure how much longer I can go with these dumb arguments.
Would I be wrong just leaving him over something simple like this? I seriously don’t know if he graduated high school or not.
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He’s too stupid to even have sex with.
How do you deal with this daily ?
Evolution is his opinion lol? In that case so is gravity, modern medicine, and just about everything else.
Don’t date someone that you don’t respect
Could he possibly be trolling you??
I can understand how someone might feel like they’re being elitist or something for thinking of leaving a partner because they’re too dumb, but honestly communication is at the core of any partnership. If you’re consistently not able to communicate, then to me that’s kind of the end of it, regardless of what the reason is behind it.
Yeah, him believing that German people don’t consider themselves European probably isn’t a crucial issue for the relationship, but if he’s just stubbornly dismissing what you’re saying in that instance, how is he going to act when you’re trying to communicate about something that is important, especially when it something that might be more emotionally charged? Communicating about serious issues in a relationship can be hard in the best circumstances, it’s only going to be worse if you’re dealing with whatever is going on with him that makes him think the story of Adam & Eve isn’t religious, or that Japan isn’t part of Asia.
You should buy him a salt lick for his birthday
I mean, I wouldn’t stay with someone that… challenged. Let’s go with challenged. Because I want a zero percent risk that I have to share a child with someone that…yeah.
if its just that and nothing else stupid than its not that big of a deal
i mean people break up everyday without one partner actually doing something wrong. people break up cause of different opinions, values, morals, maturity levels, growing apart, on different paths, want different things, out growing eachother. it’s not wrong to break up with him just cause he didn’t actually do anything wrong. if you want someone who thinks the way you do , then u should get someone like that. you don’t wanna have to be his mom teaching him things forever. you can break up with him for any reason . maybe you guys just aren’t compatible.
plus if this is his opinion on some things, i can’t even imagine what his opinions must be like on real issues or relationship issues. i mean do u want an idiot raising your kids? does he even understand how child birth works?
How long have you known him and did you have conversations with him prior to becoming his gf? 😬🙆🏽♀️
Good grief this would be a dealbreaker for me. I’m sure he has some good qualities but I would question if his baseline understanding of reality had any similarities to my own.
Do you really want to spend your life dealing with this? You can not make him better. He is who he is. Do you want children with this intelligence level? Do you really want someone this dumb to educate your kids? Kids learn from watching parents and copying them. Do you want kids like this? No. Just no. Get out now. There must be 50 ways to leave your lover.
Slip out the back, Jack. Make a new plan, Stan.
How’s the sex and does he make you laugh? I mean, you’re 23 and 22, have fun, laugh about it. Travis Kelce couldn’t spell squirrel. Its fine.
We date people to see if we’re compatible with them… it would not appear that you’re compatible with him
This intelligence/sophistication gap is going to get worse every year that you’re together. Can you imagine introducing him to work colleagues a decade from now?
What are your own personal standards? Do you feel that you are only worthy of a dumb boyfriend? If so, why?
Therapy would help.
Do not make more of this for the rest of the world to deal with.
You can break up for any reason. This sounds like a really good one. I support you OP!
Did you know that emotional intelligence can be learned? That’s why your environment is so critical. If you hang out with under educated, unwilling to learn, limited people, they can influence your belief system. This is how many people, seemingly smart people, get radicalized.
It’s really sad for him that he’s unwilling to learn from you, he’s too young to be this inflexible, he’s going to be bonkers in 10 years if he doesn’t snap out of it. Probably living off the grid, not traveling far from Center because you know……. The Earth is flat and he and his friends could fall off.
Yeah, there’s nothing sexy or appealing about this. You have choices to make. I’m really rooting for you to leave him, he’s not enhancing your life in any way
What a dolt! Life is too short – and you will lose IQ points just being around him!
I personally need some level of intellectual connection to be able to have a relationship with someone.
This would be a deal breaker for me
Dump him. Intelligence and critical thinking matter in a relationship. If he’s this confidently wrong about basic facts and refuses to learn, it’s only going to get more frustrating. You’re not wrong for wanting a partner who can engage in reality.
He’s not only not smart he also refuses to be educated and I wouldn’t be able to stand that at allll
Well technically the Germans don’t call themselves Germans they call themselves Deutsch
I call myself European a lot online if it is about something that European countries have in common and is not specifically German.
Leave him. You are not compatible, even if he is a good guy. I was with a guy whose lack of intelligence frustrated me. I was dumb myself for that. Really. It annoys me today how dumb I was. Well, it was a rebound which is also dumb. Anyway, you are not compatible just because someone is a good person, not even if you love them. You will lose respect and that is the worst.
OP by any chance, are you moronsexual? /j
This is rage bait. OP sets up objectively stupid things on the part of her BF and then say “something simple like this.”
OP You’re definitely better off finding a brighter young man with a head on his shoulders. The more educated he is the better. SMH
Omfg run. What if he knocked you up? You’d be stuck to him forever.
Can you imagine dealing with this THE REST OF YOUR LIFE?!
Dude, run, fuckin ASAP! He’s not worth the time you’ll waste or the emotional effort!!!
Sounds like you’re not compatible. Lack of intelligence would be a dealbreaker for me
The ONLY way I would keep him around would be if he has a really big D… And he would agree to wear duct tape across his mouth anytime he was around you.
Other than that, this guy bothered me a lot just reading the little bit you wrote. There’s absolutely no possible way you can have a relationship with him.
Definitely dump worthy? Are those genes you want your future kids to have? 😂😂😂
His assumption that he’s always right about everything is going to be an ongoing issue. Back away slowly, or just run!
You definitely wouldn’t be wrong. You two are not compatible. Intellectually… I can only imagine how frustrating this conversation must have been smh. I don’t anticipate his level of intelligence excelling anytime soon. So it’s probably best to move on in my opinion since you asked.
Run don’t walk to the nearest exit
If you can’t respect him or his opinions, this is gonna be a very very difficult life together. Do NOT have kids with him please.
I’m assuming he’s a trump supporter too? 🤣
Look, a good partner doesn’t necessarily need to be the pinnacle of intellect, but this… is so much worse than that. This is “scraping the bottom of the barrel” level of intelligence. What’s worse is that he is so woefully determined to remain ignorant. It’s time to let this guy go. Don’t waste your life with someone you can’t have a decent conversation with.
Leave. You’ll never get over this.
I hope y’all use protection because that man doesn’t need his genes reproducing
was he homeschooled? is his whole family this bad?
has he had his shots??????
He is definitely lacking in the knowledge department. Being able to have a conversation with your BF is Relationship 101.
Be kind and let him go.
Surely he m-m-m-m-makes you happy in other ways?
Sometimes, there’s a fine line between naive and ignorant. This is not one of those times. You’re putting off the inevitable and you’ll start to notice how he does that other thing you hate, chews like that and constantly embarrasses you. Pull the plug, STAT, before you resent yourself for how long you let yourself resent him.
You don’t need our permission to leave a relationship, you’re allowed to leave for any reason.
Now, personally, I am curious why yall keep getting in these heated discussions over stupid shit and why do you feel the need to “win” these arguments.
It’s clear you don’t respect the guy, so I’d personally say to leave. But you do whatever you want to do.
how many times per week do people distract your boyfriend by jingling keys in front of his face?
“I don’t know what to do.”
I guess I’m dumber than both of y’all, can’t tell who’s dumb and who’s dumber in this situation.
Dumb as he may be, you’re the one fucking him, whatever you do, don’t have kids, we have enough idiots in this world.
Well, you’re with the guy so doesnt that make you kinda dumb?