We’ve been together from May 2023 to now. I just found out yesterday. These texts happened between May 2023 to Oct 2023. It was in the areas of her/ her ex sending a nsfw meme on Instagram and the other person replying how they missed doing xyz (something sexual). I don’t think it was like a full blown sexting, but this still hurts and I’m too crushed. My girlfriend had told me when we started dating in May 2023, that she was still moving on from her ex and hadn’t fully moved on, but it was never communicated to me that they are partaking in these dirty textual messages still.
Comments
Welcome to /r/relationship_advice. Please make sure you read our rules here. We’d like to take this time to remind users that:
We do not allow any type of am I the asshole? or situations/content involving minors
We do not allow users to privately message other users based on their posts here. Users found to be engaging in this conduct will be banned. We highly encourage OP to turn off the ability to be privately messaged in their settings.
Any sort of namecalling, insults,etc will result in the comment being removed and the user being banned. (Including but not limited to: slut, bitch, whore, for the streets, etc. It does not matter to whom you are referring.)
ALL advice given must be good, ethical advice. Joke advice or advice that is conspiratorial or just plain terrible will be removed, and users my be subject to a ban.
No referencing hateful subreddits and/or their rhetoric. Examples include, but is not limited to: red/blue/black/purplepill, PUA, FDS, MGTOW, etc. This includes, but is not limited to, referring to people as alpha/beta, calling yourself or users “friend-zoned”, referring to people as Chads, Tyrones, or Staceys, pick-me’s, or pornsick. Any infractions of this rule will result in a ban. This is not an all-inclusive list.
All bans in this subreddit are permanent. You don’t get a free pass.
Anyone found to be directly messaging users for any reason whatsoever will be banned.
What we cannot give advice on: rants, unsolicited advice, medical conditions/advice, mental illness, letters to an ex, “body counts” or number of sexual partners, legal problems, financial problems, situations involving minors, and/or abuse (violence, sexual, emotional etc). All of these will be removed and locked. This is not an all-inclusive list.
If you have any questions, please message the mods
This is an automatic comment that appears on all posts. This comment does not necessarily mean your post violates any rules.
I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.
If it’s been a good two years I’d get over it. Knowing someone chose you despite having other options isn’t an insult and firing electrons back and forth at each other doesn’t violate the rule of “exclusive”.
Water under the bridge, I say.
It has been two years and while you guys were exclusive, she wasn’t sleeping around or dating him behind your back. When things got serious and you put labels on yourselves, she cut him off to focus on you.
It’s not about what others would do, but about what you are okay with and whether you can live with it.
Just for your information, you don’t need to officially label yourselves as boyfriend and girlfriend to consider this cheating, because it is, at the very least, emotional cheating, if not physical. Who knows.
well it looks like you’ve already identified the problem you have with it but the real question is are you okay with continuing this relationship? I mean you stated that they are still sending eachother NSFW memes and you guys are literally dating right?
If she is still not over her ex boyfriend after this entire time she should of not pursued a relationship with you if she is “still healing” but then again “healing people” don’t send NSFW memes to the ex that is “causing this healing”.
she’s obviously isn’t over him and she may even be using you as a rebound, you should have a conversation with her about the ex and if she is still trying to get over it she may need to be single to do that because she’s hurting you as well and it’s selfish of her to be doing that knowing dam well she is in a relationship.
That’s not gf material. If you are exclusive, you are not sexting others.
Move on.
Sorry bro.