My previous post talks about my disaster of a meeting with mil. Well it turns out it wasn’t a disaster after all! Her behaviour made hubby see how manipulative she is and how she is unwilling to be nice to me or accept boundaries. He left the meeting and sent her a message saying he needed time to reassess their relationship and he’ll be in touch when he’s ready
So far it’s been one month of no contact and it’s bliss. Our marriage is happier, I’m happier and the kids don’t even ask about her. I realised my people pleasing was part of a mental health issue and got help and it’s made a huge difference
Obviously I realise he could change his mind anytime he wants but I’m now able to stand my ground without feeling guilty. I won’t be seeing her again regardless of what he chooses to do. I also won’t let her near my children. It’s awful, it’s sad that someone places their ego/control/wanting to be right over their own kids and grandkids but it is what it is
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I remember her! So glad everything has worked out for you and you are happier, life’s to short to be unhappy.
Yeah, NC is like a massive weight and off the shoulders. My wife took a time out from her mother and her overall anger dissipated. Now, we see MIL when we want, for only as long as we want, and on our terms entirely. It was exactly what you ended off with: control control control and an absolute “need” to be right by MIL.