How long does it normally take you all to ask a girl to be your girlfriend?

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I really want to date this girl but I feel like I’m rushing since it’s only been a month. How do you know that it’s time to settle down with her?

Comments

  1. ClassicCatto Avatar

    Settle down? Easy there Tiger.

  2. SquirrelNormal Avatar

    Oh, I avoid women at this point. Saves time.

  3. Frut_Jooos Avatar

    It varies between everyone. The best course of action here isn’t to ask the internet, but to ask the lady herself. Ask her to be your girlfriend, and then work things out. She either says yes, no, or let’s spend more time together first(situationship).

  4. CreatineAddiction Avatar

    I didn’t even ask my wife on a date I asked her directly to be my girlfriend then we went on a date the friday night after I asked. I think it was like 1 or 2 days.

    I might have fucked the order up but we have been married 17 years.

  5. 8livesdown Avatar

    I’ve never actually had that conversation. The relationship always just “happened”.

  6. LAWLESX Avatar

    I read a meme a few days back
    The longer you wait, her wedding card you get

  7. vMiDNiTEv Avatar

    it all depends on the connection with the girl and where i’m af in life, my first love ever, we never even made it official, bc we were both too scared and then when i met another girl we made it official within 2 weeks, so its completely up to you

  8. FitNThisDickIn Avatar

    You should wait for her to ask you for commitment.

  9. Softt_peach Avatar

    Men will literally rotate the earth 12 times before asking you to be their girlfriend…haha…

  10. Ok_Noise7655 Avatar

    A month of what?

  11. CucumberSecure6060 Avatar

    Don’t leave us here in the trenches. Jk. Wait for 2-3 months

  12. the99percent1 Avatar

    You don’t. Relationship and exclusivity should always be brought up by her. She’s trying to lock you down, not the other way round.

    Wish more dudes would understand that. If a girl wants you, she wants you

  13. Ok-War25 Avatar

    Start w a date, find out who she is and if she likes you back?

  14. Important-Object-561 Avatar

    Do adults ask other adults to be their gf? I just date people and then we start living together then marriage. I never come out and ask, would you be my girlfriend? Asking if someone would be your gf hasn’t happened since highschool.

  15. randomacc455ef Avatar

    Just assume that you are in a relationship, if you are kissing or more. If you want to give ‘hints’, say that you don’t want to date casually with her.

  16. ifdggyjjk55uioojhgs Avatar

    Depends on her and how I experience her.

  17. mynameisschultz Avatar

    I’m old…er now so it feels weird calling a woman I’m seeing my girlfriend but I only date exclusive so if we’re going out on the regular we’re either a couple or we are nothing and I’m not wasting my time with her.

    I don’t want a woman who’s chasing other dicks around town, you’re wasting your time, effort and money if she’s not commiting to something more serious at this point.

    I mean, unless it works for you and you get sex in exchange for taking her out to dinner? But then you know what they call that lol, could be cheaper than a wife honestly.

    Just have a talk and see where she’s at, if she like you then it shouldn’t be a problem, if she doesn’t want to be your girlfriend then you’re deluding yourself dude and go find another girl

  18. Super_Swordfish_6948 Avatar

    I knew after the second date, we’d known each other three weeks by that point.

    As for becoming official, she just dropped into conversation casually that I was her boyfriend so I didn’t get to ask. We were trending in that direction so it wasn’t that big of a deal.

  19. thenord321 Avatar

    People take the girlfriend/boyfriend title way too seriously, you’re not getting engaged! 

    You’re just focusing on each other when exclusive.

    For me, by date 5 I know if I want to focus on her or just have casual fun.

    40m

  20. Best_Maintenance_790 Avatar

    Honestly it depends on the connection. If it’s mutual. Aka me and my boyfriend went on three dates and we both liked each other and felt it so we became boyfriend and girlfriend on the fourth hangout. But I have friends that “dated” for two months and then asked to be official. And I’ve had another friend date a guy for a month and then asked to be boyfriend and girlfriend.

    If you want her to be your girlfriend then tell her you don’t want to date anyone else, just her. And IF her response is “it’s too soon” or “let’s still see how this goes” then you know she’s keeping her options open and talking to other guys. And you choose to either wait or find someone else that matches what you’re looking for.