Well, I’m still a teen so idk if I can really help. But I would say one thing my parents did/do well is just limiting social media, checking dms, just stuff like that to make sure I’m not doing stuff I shouldn’t, yk?
How to express my emotions properly. My father’s a good man, but made the mistake of thinking that one should never express his anger. It’s important to learn to show emotions as a man in a mature, controlled manner.
If your son is big enough to use the mower, show him. Also if you go to the shops, get him to help at the cash register. Tell him to go grab stuff at the aisle you’re in. Will reinforce his independence early
Spanish. My family speaks it fluently but only spoke English at home. They used Spanish when they wanted to talk about something behind my back without me understanding.
I can’t help but wonder what other friends I would have made, what other opportunities would have been open to me in life if I was bilingual like they were.
Learning to fight (at a good MMA gym), so I never need to.
I did this as a young adult and it makes a man stand taller, be assertive but not aggressive and avoid physical confrontations from a position of strength.
Financial literacy and how to budget, save and invest.
Maybe take him to a financial planner to go over the very basics if needs be. This will come in very handy especially as college/university approaches (I know he’s just 11 now but time flies quickly!).
All normal independent things. I have 3 teen boys and lifes so much easier than what I hear a lot of people put up with from their husbands. If a 12 yr old can do a load of laundry without any issues so can your grown ass partner!
Aside from social skills which I do suck at I can do most things to a moderate level, not great but can do it, from cooking to sewing, to building a computer to rebuilding an engine and playing a violin as well as a piano, maybe arrogant but when it comes to things like that I’ve never found I can’t do it, again may not be great but of the view “if I care enough to focus yeah I could get a lot better just often easily distracted”.
Household things, but I would have hated it as a boy I think. The thing is, the moment I moved out of my parent’s house I was pretty much on my own. I wish I was better prepared for that. I’m still learning things about stuff like washing my own clothes or cooking 10 years later. I guess most people don’t know everything when they start living on their own, but I knew nothing and it showed big time.
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Well, I’m still a teen so idk if I can really help. But I would say one thing my parents did/do well is just limiting social media, checking dms, just stuff like that to make sure I’m not doing stuff I shouldn’t, yk?
How to defend myself
Tying knots. Learning to tie things better with a special knot.
How to express my emotions properly. My father’s a good man, but made the mistake of thinking that one should never express his anger. It’s important to learn to show emotions as a man in a mature, controlled manner.
Education is way more important than you think. Also, politeness and helpfulness go a long way.
If your son is big enough to use the mower, show him. Also if you go to the shops, get him to help at the cash register. Tell him to go grab stuff at the aisle you’re in. Will reinforce his independence early
How to chat up girls. Never taught, social anxiety delayed my learning.
How to invest money.
Spanish. My family speaks it fluently but only spoke English at home. They used Spanish when they wanted to talk about something behind my back without me understanding.
I can’t help but wonder what other friends I would have made, what other opportunities would have been open to me in life if I was bilingual like they were.
How to do everything in the house by himself. He might live alone one day and he needs to know how to cook, clean, washing clothes, etc.
Also, teach him about consent and hopefully to be tolerant to other people
Learning to fight (at a good MMA gym), so I never need to.
I did this as a young adult and it makes a man stand taller, be assertive but not aggressive and avoid physical confrontations from a position of strength.
It’s really healthy for boys.
Guts to approach women
My civil rights
Empathy
Please teach him how to just do things that need doing – without asking.
Like washing clothes, dishes, bins, tidying up…
The mental load that “some men” put on their partners is what leads to breakups.
Also respect, empathy (being able to imagine yourself in someone else’s situation), and consent!
How to talk about my feelings
Teach him how to cook.
Some kind of relationship advice. Wasted a 5yr relationship that I realized later mostly because of communication problem, it’s awful.
The King’s Indian Defense
Financial literacy and how to budget, save and invest.
Maybe take him to a financial planner to go over the very basics if needs be. This will come in very handy especially as college/university approaches (I know he’s just 11 now but time flies quickly!).
Money, budgeting, saving up, and CREDIT SCORE are all EXTREMELY IMPORTANT
Let him know that education is important, but having big biceps is importanter
All normal independent things. I have 3 teen boys and lifes so much easier than what I hear a lot of people put up with from their husbands. If a 12 yr old can do a load of laundry without any issues so can your grown ass partner!
The guitar and karate
How to fight and how to properly debate.
Aside from social skills which I do suck at I can do most things to a moderate level, not great but can do it, from cooking to sewing, to building a computer to rebuilding an engine and playing a violin as well as a piano, maybe arrogant but when it comes to things like that I’ve never found I can’t do it, again may not be great but of the view “if I care enough to focus yeah I could get a lot better just often easily distracted”.
Household things, but I would have hated it as a boy I think. The thing is, the moment I moved out of my parent’s house I was pretty much on my own. I wish I was better prepared for that. I’m still learning things about stuff like washing my own clothes or cooking 10 years later. I guess most people don’t know everything when they start living on their own, but I knew nothing and it showed big time.