So I live with my ex, I’m currently working on moving out into a place of my own but due to financial restraints that will have to wait until the current lease is up.
I broke up with my ex about 2 weeks ago but the problem is he’s not taking it seriously. He still asks me to go shopping for him, tries to hug and kiss me when I leave or get home from work, asks me to spend time watching movies or playing videogames together. He tells me that he loves me and when I remind him that we aren’t together anymore he gets upset and tells me I’m “overcomplicating things”
Yesterday when I came home and he again tried to wrap me up in his arms and kiss me. I told him to stop and he pouted at me with his hands still on my shoulders and said “why are you fighting this? You know we’re still in love with each other” I got really mad stormed into my room put on my cutest dress did my makeup and hair and walked back to the front door. He asked me where I was going and I told him “I have a date” and left
I went to go see the new Superman alone instead (it was ok🤷) I actually have no intentions of dating anybody right now, i just want to be by myself for awhile
When I got home my ex’s eyes and nose were red and puffy, he was playing videogames with his headphones on and didn’t look at me when I came in. I instantly felt so much regret that my lie hurt him but I also noticed it was the first time he didn’t try to greet me at the door when I got home.
TL:DR am I the AH for lying and saying Im dating other people to get my ex to take our breakup seriously?
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So I live with my ex, I’m currently working on moving out into a place of my own but due to financial restraints that will have to wait until the current lease is up.
I broke up with my ex about 2 weeks ago but the problem is he’s not taking it seriously. He still asks me to go shopping for him, tries to hug and kiss me when I leave or get home from work, asks me to spend time watching movies or playing videogames together. He tells me that he loves me and when I remind him that we aren’t together anymore he gets upset and tells me I’m “overcomplicating things”
Yesterday when I came home and he again tried to wrap me up in his arms and kiss me. I told him to stop and he pouted at me with his hands still on my shoulders and said “why are you fighting this? You know we’re still in love with each other” I got really mad stormed into my room put on my cutest dress did my makeup and hair and walked back to the front door. He asked me where I was going and I told him “I have a date” and left
I went to go see the new Superman alone instead (it was ok🤷) I actually have no intentions of dating anybody right now, i just want to be by myself for awhile
When I got home my ex’s eyes and nose were red and puffy, he was playing videogames with his headphones on and didn’t look at me when I came in. I instantly felt so much regret that my lie hurt him but I also noticed it was the first time he didn’t try to greet me at the door when I got home.
TL:DR am I the AH for lying and saying Im dating other people to get my ex to take our breakup seriously?
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NTA and honestly you should work on getting out of there as soon as possible, before he decides to start messing with your stuff.
What are you doing? You two are still living together. Play the long game until you move out.
Nobody is the asshole. Breakups suck. He’s obviously trying to hold onto hope and he’s in denial. I don’t blame him because it seems like he’s just trying his best to grasp at straws to fix things.
Try and get out ASAP. It’ll be the best thing for both of you.
Nta he probably would have kept harassing u
If you don’t mind, what caused the breakup and how did you break up with him?
He could have literally thought you were still together but just fighting.
NTA with this limited information thought.
I’m sorry..I’ve been there. still. 1. If u tell the truth there’s gonna be rage. 2. If you lie, your going to be questioned alot. 3. If you leave its gonna hurt, but that’s love. 4. You choose your own ending. 5. Do nothing..
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. YTA
Dude, this guy is going to hurt you. This level of denial is actually terrifying. Get out!
Just tell him if he doesn’t take you seriously, he is at risk of sexual assault charges. That is only if you’re dead serious that it’s over.
Yta, you did something with the intention of hurting another person and did so
Its a hard position, but that doesnt justify tryingcto hurt people, i dont think. That said, that doesnt make you a bad person, its just something id reflect on – if i want to be the kind of person that reacts like that
NTA, but you gotta go presuming the lease is under his name. Your presence is clearly egging him on and you leaving might be the only way it’s going to stop.
He wasn’t respecting your boundaries. You did the right thing
Ok question: why are you still living with him? Yes I get you dont have your own place but seriously, crash with a friend or family. You need to be away from him.
You need to get out of there. Is there anyone you can stay with? Can you get some friends to help you pack up your stuff while he is at work?
You both act like babies
NTA he is in denial and doesnt care about your boundaries
Do whatever you need to to get out of there and try to get out fast