If a woman approached you with romantic interests but said you must keep it a secret from her partner, what would you do?

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If a woman approached you with romantic interests but said you must keep it a secret from her partner, what would you do?

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  1. FantasticGlove Avatar

    I think I’d just say, well, you should either continue your relationship with your partner, or brake up.

  2. apeliott Avatar

    Run a mile because her partner might come and sue me.

  3. meowsaysdexter Avatar

    I’d tell her partner. I hate cheating and cheaters. Always have.

  4. SquirrelNormal Avatar

    Nope. I’ve gone 33 years without sex, another 33 won’t hurt me any more. I won’t abide a cheater.

  5. _Alpha-Delta_ Avatar

    Refuse. 

    I will not be the third wheel. And if she decides to dump her current partner to be with me, she would probably dump me too the second she sees some new guy. 

  6. SmakeTalk Avatar

    I’d shut it down.

    I’m also just not a hookup guy, I don’t find them fulfilling. Even if her partner knew and it was an open situation I wouldn’t choose a short-term situation like that for myself.

  7. DowntownSasquatch420 Avatar

    Tell her to fuck off.

    Probably tell her partner if I cared enough.

  8. Drakeytown Avatar

    If they ask you to keep a secret, that secret is a lie. You gonna get moidered.

  9. pdq_sailor Avatar

    its happened… multiple times… I thank them and politely decline.. Long term married, excellent marriage and we are totally monogamous..

  10. Roboticpoultry Avatar

    Nah, I’m out. 1. No woman is worth ruining my marriage for and 2. I’m not putting myself in a situation to be beaten or worse by her potentially jealous lover

  11. thewongtrain Avatar

    Nah. It’s not ethical. Tell her that she needs to open the relationship or she’s not getting this good dick.

  12. temporalCompanion Avatar

    I don’t care about facing repercussions from her partner, I care about being a shit person.

    I will not participate in infidelity from any direction.

    I’m 100% down with open relationships and polyamory, because there is consent and knowledge for ALL parties involved.

  13. Still_Top_7923 Avatar

    How hot is she? Is there something she does impressively well? Do I know her man? What’s she into? These are important considerations.

  14. 60sStratLover Avatar

    Tell her to call when she no longer has a partner

  15. NounverberPDX Avatar

    This is a non-starter for three reasons.
    One: I’m married and my wife wouldn’t be okay with it.
    Two: let’s suppose I was single. If she has a partner who wouldn’t be okay with it, then getting involved with her could mean all kinds of nasty consequences.
    Three: if she’ll do it to her partner, she’ll do it to me later.

  16. CerebralPaulsea Avatar

    No

    I’d hate to be the male partner so I’d never do it to a male partner

  17. BG-Engineer Avatar

    Business partner?

  18. Far-Song-8594 Avatar

    I politely and respectfully tell her to f*ck off.

  19. Morundar Avatar

    Keep away. I foolishly once got into a situation like that. She didn’t say the romantic interests out loud rightaway. So I thought we’d just be friends. 
    Once her interests came out I set a firm boundary that I don’t want to be a part of any cheating so she asked if we could still just be friends. But the messages she would send me were more than that. I wouldn’t reply in the same manner, but still.
    I kept telling her to fix her marriage with her husband. 

    At some point her husband saw the messages and I was dragged into their mess of a relationship.

    So, keep away unless you’re ready to deal with a lot of bullshit. 
    And the part that she could be just friends if she already had romantic interests, learned my lesson the hard way – had a guy threatening to break my door down with a crowbar.

  20. fos1111 Avatar

    I have so much shit on my hands already.

  21. Claymore357 Avatar

    Nope. There is no way that drama and potential violence is worth the sex. There is also no future there beyond casual sex, if she cheats for me she’ll one day cheat on me just the same. That is a minefield I have z e r o desire to walk through.

  22. unmotivated21 Avatar

    Politely decline. I can’t do that to a brother

  23. Jabathewhut Avatar

    This is how a lot of murders start

  24. TheGoochAssassin Avatar

    Try to get evidence of the infidelity so I can show her partner.

  25. Chuvisco88 Avatar

    Asking why the secrecy, but not pursuing as I am no fan of neither cheating nor Don’t ask don’t tell relationships

  26. 2omeon3 Avatar

    No third party dick
    Hell no

  27. Homely_Bonfire Avatar

    I’d play along find out who her partner is and tell him about her cheating, because that man deserves better.

  28. usernamescifi Avatar

    I ain’t no homewrecker. 

  29. Willy_Wokna Avatar

    Biggest red flag. Highly likely that you are not the only person she is telling this to.

  30. Ahielia Avatar

    Run. Far. Fast.

    If I had proof I’d send it to her partner if I had their contact info. Cheating is bad and cheaters have a special place in hell reserved for them.

  31. JadedCycle9554 Avatar

    She’s going to fuck someone, might as well be me. I can’t control the behavior of others.

    ETA: Damn 30 answers so far and I’m the only dude who would hit.

  32. Outrageous-Meal-7068 Avatar

    No. I’d feel guilty and ashamed.

  33. Wotmate01 Avatar

    I’ll admit that there was a time after my vaginally deceased wife left me that I wouldn’t have cared, and would have fucked the shit out of her as often as possible. But that period in my life was short lived.

    Before and after that period, I would have shut her down immediately.

  34. DreadChylde Avatar

    I am polyamorous but I never practice “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell”. I don’t require that my meta (partner’s partner) hang out with me, but they have to know who I am and that I am dating / fucking (whether it’s romantic or sexual relationship) their partner.

  35. DirtysouthCNC Avatar

    LMAO fuck no, nothing good comes from that. Warn the guy if I can.

  36. angellus00 Avatar

    Immediately nope right out.

  37. C1sko Avatar

    Let my wife deal with it.

  38. snakes-can Avatar

    If a man fucks a taken woman and he’s knows she is in a relationship, a certain percentage of the male spouses will find out. And a certain percentage of those men will either personally teach the home wrecker a very valuable and very painful life lesson, or pay someone else to teach the home wrecker that lesson, while he has an alibi.

    There are 4.1 billion females. There are approx 240,000,000 million singe women that 75% of men would consider suitable to sleep with.
    It’s strongly advised pick from the 240,000,000 pile.

  39. JJQuantum Avatar

    Tell her no thanks and move on. WTF?

  40. yaboytim Avatar

    Ignore her. Too messy

  41. 8livesdown Avatar

    Throw up a little in my mouth as I walked away.

  42. Coidzor Avatar

    I’d say “No thank you.”

  43. Reckless_Waifu Avatar

    Say no and warn the guy? 

  44. slartybartfast6 Avatar

    If she does it to them, she’ll do it to you.

  45. Evil_Pi Avatar

    I dont deal with cheaters.
    Or tell them they need to get their eyes checked.
    No idea what they would see in me romantically.

  46. Stirnlappenbasilisk Avatar

    This just invites drama. I would politely decline and then masturbate to the thought of her.

  47. _jgusta_ Avatar

    Tell her you are not some cheap lay. if she wants to smash she can’t be playing her dude, you are not gonna be some sidepiece.

    Besides honestly she will make your life hell

  48. SenseiTizi Avatar

    I would snitch that shit to her partner. No one deserves that.

  49. AntiFeministLib Avatar

    I would suggest she should look at her relationship and decide what is broken to fix that.

  50. Hungry_Wheel_1774 Avatar

    Easy, I don’t do married, engaged, with a boyfriend woman. I don’t do that kind of shit.

  51. thenord321 Avatar

    Play along to get something in writing or proof, then tell the partner and never talk to her again. 

    Report to HR if coworker.

    I’m not getting in bed with garbage partners. Can’t trust they don’t have diseases. Not worth the drama.

  52. Prymordial-core1007 Avatar

    Tell her I’m flattered, and if the attraction was mutual, I’d let her know that if the situation was different…explaining that I had a similar experience previously, and I won’t do it again. I would also distance myself from her.

  53. crosslegbow Avatar

    Help her cheat on her partner. I’m selfish.

  54. dragonman7777 Avatar

    Run away and not look back.

  55. Cydone12 Avatar

    Tell her to fuck off!

  56. cynic09 Avatar

    I’m not into that but I know people that’ll be fine with it.
    The way they see it, if it ain’t them it’ll be someone else so…

  57. koopz_ay Avatar

    I invited her to one of the swinger clubs I go to.

    We talk often… she’s keen… and he knows.

    He’s not handling it well, though I know he wants to.

    His culture and pride won’t let him.

    We all see each other every week at our local Aussie pub.

  58. Saif_Horny_And_Mad Avatar

    Get proof and tell. Cheaters must never be forgiven or given the option of hiding it.

  59. TuTriX31 Avatar

    Been there, don’t do it man. Honestly it’s not worth the headache.

  60. _00_00_00_00 Avatar

    Identify the mental disorder in that person. Help them to consult a doctor.