Let me explain. We’re four good friends living in the same apartment, and I like and can buy more expensive things than my roommates (shower gel, toilet paper, etc.). When they run out, they tend to use my things until they run out, before going out to buy very poor-quality items.
So now, I take everything out of the bathroom, even the toothpaste, otherwise they always finish my things before going out to buy cheap new things in bulk.
We had an argument about this because I suggested: I can buy everything for the whole house and we split the bills at the end -> they don’t want to do that because what I buy is more expensive than what they can afford.
What do you think about this situation?
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Let me explain. We’re four good friends living in the same apartment, and I like and can buy more expensive things than my roommates (shower gel, toilet paper, etc.). When they run out, they tend to use my things until they run out, before going out to buy very poor-quality items.
So now, I take everything out of the bathroom, even the toothpaste, otherwise they always finish my things before going out to buy cheap new things in bulk.
We had an argument about this because I suggested: I can buy everything for the whole house and we split the bills at the end -> they don’t want to do that because what I buy is more expensive than what they can afford.
What do you think about this situation?
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OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the asshole:
> 1) Hiding and taking with me the stuff I bought from shared places on our appartment
2) And they are angry that I won’t buy lower quality stuff for them and I’m mad that they finish my stuff before they buy new one and they don’t understand why I’m taking my stuff out of shared places
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NTA. So no one wants to split the bill for having communal toiletries, yet they want communal toiletries?
Ask them to make that make sense.
I think I’d get a box with a lock on it. NTA.
NTA. Your just setting boundaries after being taken advantage. Totally fair.
You’re NTA
>I can buy everything for the whole house and we split the bills at the end -> they don’t want to do that because what I buy is more expensive than what they can afford.
They don’t want to do that because they would rather save their money by helping themselves to your stuff.
Thanks for your replies, I thought I was going crazy when we discussed this last night, but apparently I’m the most sane person in the room haha !
NTA. Not your fault they don’t want to contribute equally but still want to benefit.
NTA If they can’t afford to replace your stuff then they can’t afford to use it.
NTA. They want you to subsidise them. That’s all there is to it.
Definitely NTA! This is one of the reasons I CANNOT live with people
In a shared house, things like toilet paper are usually a shared resource. You have one toilet roll holder, not 4. I would suggest you all pay for these resources together, and the brands and quality should be agreed before you buy.
If you want your own, better quality stuff, you let them know you won’t be sharing and only ever use your own stuff. But you need to communicate that before you do it.