How long/what did you do to get over your first love/the one??
What happened, and did love feel the same for you afterwards?
How long did it take you to get over your first love or “the one”?
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How long/what did you do to get over your first love/the one??
What happened, and did love feel the same for you afterwards?
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Never really have.
I don’t know if ‘get over’ is the right phrase. She moved on, and she’s happy, and I can see that. It helped me move on with my life as well. Part of me still loves her, but it cannot ever again be what it once was.
I met my fiancé and realized what I thought was love before really was nothing compared to how I feel now
I’ll let you know if I ever do. I wouldn’t hold your breath, though.
It was my first love and It took about 6 months. It was a rough 6 months but it changed me into the person I am today.
Bruh, with how trash most of my follow up relationships were I’m still not over us fumbling each other.
Its been 10 years and I won’t say I’ve gotten over them if by that you mean they no longer cross my mind from time to time. I still do. I wouldn’t call it still being “in love” but I guess I’ll always hold that special spot for them, no matter how it ended. And love is love. It might feel differently for different people but it doesn’t mean it’s anything less.
It took far too long for me to get over tiffany.
I cant speak for myself.
However. I can speak about my father and his one.
He had met his one after my mother and him didnt work out. I can say that after she passed around 19 years ago I believe he was never the same.
While he has healed from her death mostly. He still is not over her. I never really believed in soul mates until I knew and saw him and her. It was crazy how much it destroyed him. So if this person is truly the one.
You will NEVER get over it. It will NEVER be ok. How ever will learn to live with it being not ok.
Now. First love is a entirely different animal. Something one carries fond feelings of but is able to move on from in my experience.
Longer than I wanted a few years but you can’t really have an expected tineframe on these things. They are what they are.
12 years, Therapy, and medication that subdues nightmares :I
Well, not first love, because I never had a relationship, but I deeply had feelings for a woman who rejected me and it took me almost a year to get over her.
It took about 18 months. I just kept living my life and focusing on things I could control and eventually I thought about her less and less. Love has been better since.
Few years maybe
About 10 years.
We never dated, but I had a massive crush on her. She made a move, I didn’t realize it. She felt rejected and didn’t talk to me again.
Instopped randomly thinking about her afternI enterednmy first actual relationship.
5 years to be totally over my first girlfriend. 2 years was enough to be mostly over her but there were still some slight residual feelings. That took awhile to go away.
Its been 14 years since we met, 8 years since we broke up, 19 months since he passed away.
I’ll never forgive him,
I’ll never forget him,
I’ll never not love him.
I was with my ex (my first and only relationship) for two years.
The first time we broke up. It took me a couple of months to get over it.
The second time we broke up. I was over it before we broke up.
I’ll tell you when it happens. Bearing in mind that we had a long term relationship and then she died. Those two factors are relevant. Does love feel the same after? No. My love for her still exists. Other women don’t compare. Sorry, exgirlfriends.
Took years to realize how much of an asshole I was.
3.5 years and counting
Never have and it was 1980 to 1981. 9 months is a long time when you are 14.
I don’t think I ever really have and it’s quite pathetic if I’m being honest. We met back when I was like 20(2004ish) while working the same job at Discover Card in Phx. It was literally like a movie when I first encountered her. She walked by my cubicle, I didn’t even see her face. I immediately stood up and couldn’t take my eyes off her. Talked with her over like 2 weeks. She was into me as well, offered to take me home, even though I literally lived across the street from the job. The feelings were SOOOOO intense that it scared the shit outta me. I was VERY emotionally immature at the time and wasn’t really ready for that type of intense feeling. Like I literally would have probably proposed within 3 months type of intense. It’s one of my biggest regrets as I feel she was probably THE one. I even ended up moving back to AZ years later in the hopes that I would run into her again. Like I said, quite pathetic given the short amount of time we actually interacted with each other.
Edit: Think “Adjustment Bureau” type shit.
Still not recovered and my heart is broken
3 years and it cost my peace.
It took me a year to heal, but truthfully, not all of me ever moved on.. a part of me still belongs to him.
Never totally as in the one. You learn to love again but you never forget.