Oh boy.
Where do I start with this?
For the last 4 years, I (Male) have had this friend (Female) in a platonic way. We started out as sort of casual acquianteces, knowing each other through shared friends, but grew closer because we shared many interests, and eventually, we found ourselves in the same drama club and the same hiking group. This meant we saw each other pretty much every day in school and sometimes after that.
I, the hopeless romantic who can’t physically spend too much time with a woman before falling in love with her, obviously fell for her, head over heels, can’t sleep at night, yada yada yada, so on and so forth.
I figured that out last summer, and I held those feelings inside really tightly up until right around spring of this year. texted her, saying how much I like her and that I think she’s amazing, and I’d really like to take her out on a date.
She waited a couple of days and then wrote back, “No, thank you”.
And she hasn’t spoken to me since.
She didn’t say hi in the hallways, or say bye when I left the function, or look at me, ask me anything, it’s just total radio silence. It’s like I’m not in the room. If I say something funny and two people laugh, she won’t, and it feels like, to me, like she’s doing it on purpose. obviously that’s a little paranoid, but there’s a part of me that feels like she’s doing everything she can to sort of push me out of her life. Oh she also deleted my number on Whatsapp and blocked me on Instagram.
I’m not sure why. The message I wrote wasn’t really creepy imo… but that’s my point of view. Maybe she thinks I’m a creep. I don’t know. I guess it really got to her, maybe scared her, caused her to take back 20 steps.
I don’t know. I really don’t. I’m trying to make peace with it, ce la vie, there’s nothing I can do about it now, but I won’t lie, it really stings. It sucks.
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It seems like you posted it on other subreddits and got removed by reddit’s filters. I suggest you not to post it again and delete your posts as this (your situation) is quite sensitive
She ghosted you like you committed a crime but all you did was speak your heart. You’re not broken she just couldn’t handle the honesty and that says more about her than it ever will about you.
This is the risk you assume when confessing feelings to a friend. I’m sure you knew at some level this was a possibility before you chose to tell her, so all you can do is give her space and accept whatever happens as a result.
that’s what usually happens when u confess to a friend ..either they like u back or reject u, and once u get rejected, it’s hard to go back to being just friends.. u gotta be ready to lose the friendship.. why? cuz it’ll feel weird hanging out with someone who loves u and u don’t feel the same.. better to cut it off and that’s what she did.. so next time, don’t rush it …wait for the right moment and observe to see if they’re into u romantically or not..
Bro you just laid out your feelings, there’s nothing creepy about it. Give her some time and just causally talk to her like nothing happened and then ask her about your feelings