To sum it up – before we became officially boyfriend and girlfriend, she did say that she went through and removed a lot of people, but with one or two she was still on good terms with and didn’t want to be rude.
We became official recently, and it’s something I want to talk about because it’s really gonna hurt me if she would continue to have someone added from her past, especially given that most of her past was casual stuff or few short term relationships.
I don’t see how a serious relationship (which she wants) can go further if there’s gonna be a connection to the past, especially when the guy reacts to her stories and she just ignores it.
She doesn’t want to be rude, but the pessimistic side of me is saying “you don’t want to be rude to someone else who shouldn’t be in your life, but you will disrespect someone you’re trying to build something serious with”.
This is the last thing that holds me back from being able to say that I love her, it’s something I realised recently. We’ve only been together for 3 months, she’s asked me when do I know that I want to say to someone that I love them etc, so of course she wants to say it as well, but I couldn’t say it for some back when she asked this, and now I understood why I think.
Any advice?
Tl;dr new girlfriend with a casual past still has someone that was liking her stories and she didn’t remove him, but apparently ignores all of them
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>We became official recently, and it’s something I want to talk about because it’s really gonna hurt me if she would continue to have someone added from her past, especially given that most of her past was casual stuff or few short term relationships.
You’re not ready for a relationship.
>I don’t see how a serious relationship (which she wants) can go further if there’s gonna be a connection to the past, especially when the guy reacts to her stories and she just ignores it.
Trust. You haven’t got any, and that’s going to kill your relationship.
>Any advice?
Get therapy for your insecurity.