How did women act before and after when you invested on yourself? Was there a difference before they treated you?
How did women treat you before and after your ‘glow up’?
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How did women act before and after when you invested on yourself? Was there a difference before they treated you?
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Women will start noticing you when you develop the confidence to no longer care whether or not they notice you. One of life’s little ironies.
they bullied me, told me to kill myself, a few assaulted me. After they just ignore me at worst and treat me like a Rottweiler at best.
Meaning they see me as big, ugly and potentially dangerous.
Not much of a glow up, huh!?
Still better than it was.
Ofc better now I got even more “personality” than before
As far as how they *treat* me, it’s the same.
However, the percentage of the number of women willing to go out with me increased.
I got dysentery once and lost 10 pounds. It was enlightening.
I was a skinny tall dude with no muscle, bunch of pimples through out my teens and early 20s. And was never noticed by girls. Was often ignored.
Then, started hitting the gym in my late 20’s, put on lean muscle, ate wholefoods, cut junk totally, consulted a dermatologist, got a skincare routine, skin improved, and now I’m noticed. Can catch girls looking at me when I’m out in public.
So yes, my glow up, did help me go from “never being noticed” to “he looks alright”.
I was a poor 210 pound 5”5 ugly brown man in a small midwestern town and no girls saw me as anything other than a goofy dude. I joined the military dropped to 140 and came back to my high school to do something military related honor the troops and all of a sudden girls who use to go out of their way to avoid talking to me wanted me to be around them. They always had excuses to talk to me, be around me, or touch me. Very jarring experience and also since I was young and dumb didn’t notice.
Like a boy, because I was 13. I did okay from 14 on into my adult years
They treated me just fine all-around; I don’t think women notice looks nearly as much as they notice confidence
I cut my hair and put on muscle and stopped dressing like an emo kid and I started receiving less positive attention from women. I felt that I had grown/glowed up but I guess I just blend in now?
Couldn’t get a girl to kiss me before let alone show some interest.
Now I have girls swooning over me left and right. I am still not used to it if I am honest.
Idk, I’ve been glowed up since birth.
I’m old and I’m not going to Google it.
WTF is a “glow up”
I started having women I no chance in hell with before coming up and starting conversations with me but I had no game.
Found out the shallow ones come out a lot more when you glow up.
So there is a increase of attention, just the value of the attention dropped.
I had heaps of friends who were women, all really close, but legit was friend-zoned by all.
Fast forward a few years, after eating healthy and exercising like a mad man things changed drastically.
I got invited to a birthday party, went swimming in the pool, later on got a handjob from one of the girls who “only wanted to be friends” and from that point on I had multiple and constant propositions from women.
Never had a glow up. Have been consistent the whole time. I did have a period where I was 4% body fat post basic training and AIT. I got more attention but less pussy bc women generally said that I prolly have girls throwing themselves at me and that means the doors will stay closed.
Yes. They didn’t even look at my face while talking to me, now I get approached relatively often (for a man standard ofc). They often search for physical contact, like touching my arms or shoulders while taking. Most important, in the last 2 years I got no meeting at all with HR because I tried to small talk to women colleagues at work
Saw no difference. But honestly, I did it more for me than somebody else I want to impress.
Night and day. I used to lack confidence, didn’t know how to dress or really talk to people. Then I met some good friends who became social coaches, helped me get some new clothes, let me know when I was making social faux pas and I just took my time modeling their behavior. Nothing crazy either mind you, these were just a few normal, extroverted guys.
Women had never treated me poorly before but afterwards I found that a lot more were happy to talk with me, making conversation with them (and everyone really) was a lot easier and dating/relationships have been easier to make and maintain.
To be honest, I have caught more girls taking a quick glances at me often now, when I looked at my old pics, I know I was ugly, but now i feel attractive, going to the gym, eating healthy, doing skincare and what not. Its been good feeling anyway, not that I want anything to do with them
Nothing has changed, I spent year being ignored and dismissed at best and rudely told to fuck off at worse, spent time improving myself including losing 80-90 pounds, getting a job, and exercising. People still don’t give me the time of day
A wallflower, to orbiting around me/ trying to get my attention. I’m accepting it slowly now.
I was going through a depression, couldn’t eat, lost a lot of weight. I also was going to light box therapy to treat a psoriasis outbreak so I got really tan. Women were more chatty with me during this time
If you glow then it may be because you absorbed radioactive material, get that checked out bro
I’ve had two major glow-ups in my life: losing weight and upgrading my fashion game. Both transformed how people, especially women, treat me.
I’ve fluctuated between 130 kg and 80 kg a few times. When I’m under 90 kg, the difference in dating is night and day. Women are more open, flirty, and make it obvious they’re interested, especially in group settings. Above 90 kg, some still like me, but it’s clear many don’t even register me. It’s like being invisible to some women who aren’t into heavier guys. Right now, I’m above 90 kg again, and while I’m okay with it, the shift in attention is undeniable. So being leaner was a game changer.
My second glow-up was about style. Until my 30s, I thought dressing comfortably in skater clothes, cool sneakers and baggy clothes was fine. I never judged others by their clothes, so I assumed no one judged me. Big mistake. I was studying architecture, surrounded by stylish people (mostly women) who cared about aesthetics. My girlfriend at the time was into fashion and makeup, while I barely trimmed my beard or hair.
I learned that how you dress signals effort and competence, especially professionally. People assumed my skills were lacking because I looked sloppy. So, I started small: I cleaned my shoes, got clothes tailored, learned basic color theory, and invested in a perfume. Now, I can wear sneakers and cargo pants and still look put-together.
So… women care a lot about it both in dating and professionally.
PS: Used some AI because english is not my first language.
I’m not sure if losing ~45 pounds counts as a glow up but it didn’t make a difference. I got no attention before, I get no attention now.
They’re a lot nicer and welcoming.
I was pretty invisible to them, then I filled out, got way more confident and they started approaching me. It was very confusing at first.