I recently found out my husband has been cheating on me with multiple women for the entire relationship. Before we got married until recently whn I found out.
We met in 2018 and got married in 21. I found out by seeing a response to a message on his phn after constant denial he admitted that he flirted with the female. Then over a course of a week after constantly asking he admitted he sleeping with a girl and going to see her evn when I’m home. He would go on work trips meet with a girl sleep with her.. Also come back frm trips and go directly to another ones house before coming home. I found the most recent girls socials and messaged her she has no idea he was married and tolde everything. She said he said he lived with his aunt..
I did more digging and found out it’s multiple women and also dating apps.
We just started living together last year which makes it even more difficult for me to understand. We have had no issues he keeps saying I’m his dream girl. He wants me to forgive him and have his child… I see this as a trap. I’m so confused and hurt.
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of course you can forgive him. i wouldn’t though.
Do NOT have a child with this man. That’s his way of ensuring you never get a life outside of him. Leave and take as much as you can from the marriage and make sure he gives his share of alimony. He deserves to pay for the crap he put you through.
Nah fuck that, divorce him and get that alimony.
He will not stop cheating, he will just hide it more.
It’s been all lies up until now and he would have continued lying if he didn’t get caught. Please don’t have a baby with this man, you don’t deserve this kind of life.
Edited for punctuation.
That’s the thing. You don’t.
You can try to forgive, but you will never look at him the same way again. Most people can’t forgive and break up. But I would seek couples counselling/therapy if you want to try.
I’m so sorry this is happening to you, you deserve someone who loves you and only you. If you were his dream girl, he’d act like you were. Please do yourself a solid and leave him.
Go ahead and divorce him. You won’t get over it. It will always be there. Always always always.
Nope! Why?
He’s broken, you shouldn’t take it upon yourself to fix him as you are the victim as well. I’m not going to tell you what you should do, but this will be a struggle. The trust is gone, you are going to wonder what he is doing every time he leaves out the door. It’s going to eat you up every time you see that man walk out that door every day.