I’m falling in love with my friend who has a girlfriend

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I’m falling in love with my friend who has a girlfriend

I (21F) think I might be falling in love with my friend (23M) who has a girlfriend. They’ve been together for about 3.5 years. I know he loves her and I hate that I feel this way about him. Him and I met 6 weeks ago on a two week long study abroad trip. He was the only man on the trip. We immediately hit it off and became close friends. I had a crush on him from pretty much the moment I saw him. We spent the entire trip attached at the hip and shared everything with each other. He’s a very affectionate person, both physically and emotionally, and was very touchy and complimentary towards me. Hugging, rubbing my back, hand on my leg, letting me hold his arm or hand when we were walking around. Other girls on the trip made comments about how close we were and that they thought it was weird. We even slept in the same hotel room on the last night of the trip (different beds). That night, him and I talked about what people said about us and he said he didn’t think it was weird and I shouldn’t let them get in my head.

It’s been almost 4 weeks since the trip ended and we’ve talked every single day since. Every day he tells me things like how beautiful and cute I am, that he misses me, he’s so lucky he met me, I’m his favorite person to talk to, how much I make him smile and laugh, he loves my smile, wishes we were with each other, wishes he could hug me, I make him so happy, just all sorts of things like that. He’s just the sweetest person I’ve ever met and checks off so many of my boxes. I’ve really never clicked with someone so fast. He’s even made plans to come visit me at the end of August for my birthday and stay at my apartment. (He’s an online student and I’m on campus so we don’t live in the same state). He’s also opened up to me multiple times that he’s going through a rough patch with his girlfriend, saying she’s a bad communicator, feels distant from her, unsupported by her, etc. I’m just so confused by our friendship. I feel like we crossed the boundaries of a normal friendship between a guy and a girl. If things keep going like this, I’m planning on having a serious conversation when I see him in August but I don’t even know what I should say. Is his behavior normal? Should I say anything or just let it go? I’m sorry this is so long but I’m just very confused. I feel like he could really be my person but I don’t want to be delusional or a home wrecker.

TL:DR

I think I’m falling for my friend, even though he has a long-term girlfriend. We got super close on a trip, and he’s been really affectionate and flirty since. He talks to me every day, says he misses me, and is visiting me soon. He’s also told me he’s having issues with his girlfriend. I’m confused and don’t know if I should say something.