I M18 and my gf F19 have been dating for 5 months the most we’ve done sexual wise is finger and I went down on her once, but nothing involving touching me (ps, I don’t think I was that good at either).
TL;DR Some details are I am a virgin and I am pretty insecure with my body and my size is not crazy small but like 5’5 inches but still I feel like I am too small for her and I am scared she’ll leave once she sees how I look naked or how bad I am at it.
Another thing that should be mentioned is she is experienced but I don’t think she has any interest in “taking the lead”. We have talked about sex before and why I am nervous to do sexual stuff involving me, past relationships pressure, ( online relationships though so nothing happened that wasn’t through a webcam) and she said she understood but ever since then we haven’t brought it up and when we are making out it doesn’t go past that point.
I mainly don’t want to wait too long for her but I want it to go as smoothly as it could.
Other than that The relationship is amazing and I love her I don’t wanna screw it up how do I get over my anxiety’s. (Also this is my first Reddit post so plz go easy)
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I think part of getting over it is accepting that it might wind up not being that great, but that it’s fine if that’s how it goes. It can (and almost always does) improve dramatically over time as you get more comfortable with each other, learn what each other likes, learn what to do… The first time (or the tenth time) doesn’t have to be perfect or even good. It can just be an affirmation that you two are into each other and want to take your relationship to the next level. You can keep exploring and improving that aspect of your relationship over time.