I got off work at 7pm. Starving, I hurried into the kitchen to make steak fajitas. My man was on the phone. He came in after his phone call and tapped is wrist several times and with intensity he said “the clocks ticking”.
I was holding a huge tray of veggies and steak and had my hands full heading to the grill and I was like “what?” He’s like “the clock is ticking, we havent even hung out yet tonight.” It’s like 730 at this point and I’m hungry. At first I was like “are you fucking with me?” Because like why are you rushing me? But then he’s like “no I’m serious the clock is ticking.” I got defensive and was like “bro what I’m trying to cook myself dinner I need to eat. Why are you rushing me?” (I have celiac so I can’t eat out). And then I said “I’m available to talk while I cook”
So he starts a whole debate about how I interpreted it wrong and he wasn’t trying to rush me and that’s not what it means. I literally asked Siri in front of him. I’m like dude I’m sorry but if you tap your wrist and say “the clock is ticking” it means hurry the fuck up. Am I the asshole for “misinterpreting” the idiom? Like why come at me with that energy?
The real kicker. I sit down to eat, and he sits right next to me and plays on his phone and ignores me. lol I feel crazy 🥲🥲🥲
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that means break up with his ass
NTA What it means to me is that it’s time to end the relationship. He can have his debate with his next date.
next time you bone & you haven’t cum yet tap ur wrist… “clock’s ticking” NTA!
it’s frustrating when someone gaslights you into thinking you “misinterpreted” obvious behavior. And then for him to ignore you afterward? That’s just immature
“The clock is ticking,” it’s time for him to go.
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It means your guy is an arrogant jerk. Why are you with him?
NTA. Hopefully it’s just a one off miscommunication.
What did he THINK it meant? Not sure if it means something different in other countries but in English speaking countries it means we are running out of time so hurry your slow ass up.
What did he try saying it means?
ESH. This is broken and you should both leave each other. I have so many questions for both of you that it’s not even worth asking in this forum.
NTA – It sounds like the relationship has become toxic, and you’ll have to sit down and decide if it’s fixable or if you’re better off without him. Generally I’d say it’s 10/90 for chances on fix/run. Good luck in whatever you choose <3
NTA
But he is right in one way. The clock is ticking. Why are you wasting your limited time on this manipulative idiot?
The clock is ticking means time is running out. Did he want sex. What was he waiting for?
NTA – he was being rude, and I’m glad you called him on it
I have Celiac too and anyone trying to rush me when I haven’t eaten all day.. nah buddy. You get to snack and pick up anything you want from anywhere you want and eat any damn thing you can get your hands on and stuff in your face. I get to drink water till I have time to cook for myself. Legit. GTFO of here with that noise.
This guy, either doesn’t know what that means, or is a walking red flag. What did he want, you to put everything down and tend to his needs?? Or is he hinting it’s time to make babies?? I don’t understand what point he’s trying to make, but don’t get between a Celiac and her food. FAFO.
It means the relationship was over 5 minutes ago
NTA. Idk why I read these comments, though… people are ridiculous. You’d walk away from perusing these responses and think that any argument in a relationship whatsoever should immediately result in “run don’t walk” from the other person. Like wtf? People are going to disagree. They are going to argue. They are going to miscommunicate. I’m sure you’ve NEVER been rude before in your life without meaning to be. It’s like everything is a red flag that immediately means you should leave because the other person is “toxic” or “gaslighting.”
In all seriousness, if he’s always impatient with you and saying things to make you feel like your needs aren’t important, then you may want to re-evaluate the relationship. If everything is usually great and this was an odd one-off situation, like you seem to be inferring, then he probably miscommunicated what he wanted. He may have simply missed you and not realized how insensitive he was being – since the whole premise seemed to be him wanting you to hurry up so you could spend time together. All in all, you know your relationship. If these arguments are a normal thing, that may be an issue. If not, and this was very strange or different, then you’re probably fine.
The clock is ticking on your relationship with a gaping ahole!
Hurry up time is running out but not death lol
Why is he your man?????? He’s a childish imbecile!!
He was definitely telling you to hurry TF up! What a jerk move!! HE should’ve cooked you dinner before you got home!
NTAH
If he was so worried about “the clock ticking” why didn’t he have dinner prepared and ready for you when you got home?!
His comment was not a joke, it was rude.
As for him sitting there on the phone while you ate, disrespectful.
You deserve better than this OP.
You are correct and he is TA
What did he think it meant?
Nta and he obviously meant to rush so he can hang out with you because he was thinking of himself.
But he couldn’t have come up with something better when you asked what he meant? Even “I’m just telling you that my watch is working again” or something else stupid.
NTA. It means hurry up, we’re running or are going to run out of time.
Hurry the fuck up
It means exactly what you thought. “Hurry the fuck up! You are holding me up!”
You misinterpreted nothing
idk, NT. He definitely meant to rush you! Tapping your wrist is basically code for “hurry up.” Cook, eat, then chat.
That gesture means hurry up. That time is running out so you need to be quick.
Which it doesn’t sound like you appreciated seeing as you were hangry but it’s also can be a pretty passive aggressive gesture in certain contexts.
NTA. Even if it was a misunderstanding, what’s the big deal? For him to keep harping on about it makes him seem exhausting to be around. Sounds like a ‘gotta always be right’ kinda person and I find them very annoying.
“The clock is ticking” is just another way to say that condescending “I’m waaaiiitinggggg” thing.
NTA
What was time running out for? Did you have anywhere to be? Did you arrange to do something together at a specific time? Did he have to leave at a specific time? Why were you not eating together? It all sounds like he is a manipulative blame-shifter that brings a lot of pain to their partner.
No, that definitely means to hurry up in a very rude way.