Struggling to find people with the same ambition and values and ideas of fun in a new city. Any advice?ðŸ˜
How do you make friends as an adult?
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Struggling to find people with the same ambition and values and ideas of fun in a new city. Any advice?ðŸ˜
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Find local social clubs for your interests and hobbies and start attending them. Or just find new hobbies and interests with local clubs devoted to them.
I found making food and giving it away to work colleagues or fellow uni students was a good start
Have sex with them then realize you’re not that into them and become friends and then get to know their friends.
Invite people to dinner
Try socialising at places which interest you and see if you can meet like minded people.
I was looking to keep myself busy rather than make friends, but that happened too.
Look up hobby intro classes near you and go to them. It doesn’t have to be something you are passionate about, yet. And if the intro class is a bust, move on to another.
I had taken glass bead making classes decades ago. It didn’t stick (and was more work related). I taught beaded jewelry making classes at the hippy shop (that sold beaded jewelry supplies).
Took the NRA handgun safety intro class. I had no intention of purchasing a handgun at the time. But fun to do and learn.
The one that really stuck was the archery intro class. I ended up being a certified coach and local competitor. National events I went to once a year but always middle of the pack at that level.
Clubs, meet ups, and groups!
I can’t. I only have co-worker friends or acquaintances.
Both are friends only when I run into them. We don’t hang out or call each other.
“Step 1: Pretend to enjoy hobbies so I have an excuse to leave the house.
Step 2: Accidentally make eye contact with another lost soul doing the same thing.
Step 3: Panic, say something awkward, and now we’re trauma-bonded.
Step 4: Slowly drift apart because we both forgot how to maintain friendships past childhood.
Repeat steps 1–4 until I die or get a dog.
Literally join anything. Finding friends is easy, finding true friends that are ride and die is rare. I might have 5 real friends who would cancel whatever is in their life to help me out if I truly need it and I would do the same is special. Out of those 5 only 1 was met after 20 years old. Something about building a bond early and keeping it through developmental years and beyond is as close to family as you can get. Older you get it seems like people want to build connections for monetary gains, even when you share a hobby you’re both passionate about.
I joined a bowling league. Gives me a night out and people to drink beers with one night a week.