the guy (33m) im seeing only messages me (33f) through IG

r/

ve been talking to a guy for about a month. we’ve gone on 4 dates. on the last one he cooked for me and we had unprotected sex. i know it was dumb.

when i first shared my contact info on hinge i sent my number and ig handle. i feel weird that at this stage he doesnt follow my ig, and i have no clue what his number is. he sometimes takes hours to message back. normally i dont rly care for someone to message me that often once the relationship is defined but whe things are ambiguous it triggers my anxious attachment and I feel awful

i also feel weird that its almost the weekend and he hasnt asked for any plans to see eachother again. i feel like im getting played. part of me wants to just start going out on other dates but once i do i will not have time for him at all anymore cause im already super busy w hobbies and friends. i tend to sabotage relationships in early stages when someone fails to communicate clear enough for me .

can someone give me some advice?

TLDR: guy only messages me on instagram and takes 1-3 hrs to respond

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  1. roastmecerebrally Avatar

    maybe you should try communicating with him lol