Sometimes I think about asking a guy out that I think is cute but get nervous about them having a gf or just not being interested. Sooo, guys, how would you feel if hypothetically a girl came up to you with a bracelet that had her phone number on it and just said something like “Hi, this is for you, if you want it” ? Would that catch your attention? would you be confused? Just wondering if this is worth a shot.
How would you feel if I (25F) did this to you?
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I’d feel its kind of childish if a women did that but I’m also 44.
If a woman wants to give me her number she can tell it to me or hand it to me on a piece of paper like everyone else.
Confused, and wondering why you have a bracelet……. Unless you’re 14 of course, and this is some school yard shit.
Come up, say something, if we vibe, ask for IG and done.
I’d be creeped out. What’s wrong with just walking up and saying hi + a compliment? That’s a low stakes way of getting a conversation started with a stranger and if there’s a tiny spark, then maybe ask to follow each other on social media or something.
Stick with asking them out up front instead.
As men, we’re not big on vague surprises or mental games. It’s why we’re so blunt most of the time.
I mean, it’s a very unique way of giving out your number, and I personally would be grinning like no tomorrow if someone did that for me. Maybe to ease the sudden fright someone might have, just have a quick chat with them.
“Hey, do you by chance have a girlfriend?”
“That’s perfect, my name is …..”
“He gives his name”
“I like that name, hey listen, I couldn’t help but notice how handsome you looked and thought that maybe I could give you my number and we could maybe meet up for a coffee?”
“Oh don’t worry about getting your phone out, here, this is for you” hands him the bracelet
I would certainly be confused about the bracelet. It’s creative, but also very unexpected/unusual. That could be a good thing or it could be majorly confusing. Unexpected things certainly catch attention and curiosity and also stay in your mind longer.
It really depends on the delivery. I personally wouldn’t lead with the bracelet, but it would be mega-smooth if you pulled it out when it came to exchanging phone numbers. But maybe there is a good way to use it as an opening line too and I’m just not creative enough.
None the less, rejection can be scary, so please don’t let it discourage you and don’t take it personally.
I don’t know if I would realize it has a phone number on it
Best to just lead with introducing yourself, find out if he has a girlfriend and THEN shoot your shit if he’s single.
Even if you lead with the bracelet, if he has a girlfriend he’s gonna tell you and you’ll have to be ok with the rejection.
I would try to match her with all mental health problems I`ve heard and see what fits the best! As some said, unless we are teenagers!
Sounds strange . Use your big girl words . You’re 25 not 15.
It would catch my attention but yeah, confused if someone random just comes to me like that. Especially a woman. Unheard of 😂
I think I’d be looking around for recording device expecting to be punked or something.
I’d be like “the what? 🤨” 🤣 lol
34m, like you must be too young for me
Just talk to them. If you’re vibing with them, then ask for their contact details and suggest meeting again for drinks/coffee/ice cream. If they have a gf or they’re not interested in dating, they’ll say “no”. No harm, no foul.
You don’t have to do something cute to catch a guy’s attention. Women making the first move is still out of the ordinary, so you doing that alone would make you stand out. Just keep it simple.
Okay im throwing out the age thing because that would make you a pedo, if an age appropriate girl came up to me and offered a bracelet with her number on it i’d find it very cute and most guys will be very respectful if they have a gf, that’s no reason to not shoot your shot
I’d be very confused.
Just walk up and ask him for a cup of coffee
There would probably be a short awkward pause while I’m a bit confused, processing what you mean and looking at the bracelet (hopefully noticing the phone number). But I’d think it was a very unique and memorable way to do it.
Would love it. Women have told me after they are married or have a boyfriend, oh I had such a huge crush on you back then but you never seemed interested. I actually liked some of these girls but I had shyness issues and I never picked up any flirting they said they did.
I would misunderstand and say ‘No, that’s not mine, I don’t wear a bracelet.’
If you don’t, there’s zero chance.
I’d wouldn’t turn down an invitation, I know how scary it can be.
Most people will see it as childish. It is. But it also has the childish innocence too, which makes it sweet. Do it as you feel you want to do it. If he says no, it means that he’s not into this type of energy in which you seem to be, so it’s good if he says no. If he says yes, then he appreciates and/or may have some of the same energy.
People, just be your true selves. It’s an automatic filtering system. If you’re afraid to be rejected so you pretend to be a different type of person, then if the person says yes, it doesn’t say yes to you.
30 and contempt with the peace of being single for 12 years now, and Considering my Paranoia…
I’d accept it and look around if its a setup for a Scam/Prank, would probably not call the number as it could be phishing or a networking opportunity for pyramid scheme
^(cause some people do sell bracelets/pens/keychains/handcrafted stuff in the streets sometimes with a side of sob story so you aren’t technically buying an overpriced thing but is actually charity)
Even if someone were to be forward with their intentions, my life is too boring that time is literally just passing me by I’d rather not waste other people’s time… Maybe a friend atleast
Give it a shot for others I’m sure it will work considering women rarely ever approach the guys they like
Honestly I would love to get a bracelet but personally its a bit odd since if someone cares enough about me to make a bracelet I’d want to wear it, but if its with your phone number on it its not really wearable…
How about just asking them for their insta?
Lmao the fuck is wrong with you? You think you’re in a sitcom or something?
Personally I’d be very touched. It may take me a moment to process what’s going on, but I’d be very happy.
I like it. Just say give me a call or something to explain 😉
Just shoot your shot. If you get rejected, get over it. It won’t be the end of the world. Maybe he’ll like you or maybe he’ll reject you. That’s life.
If you’re interested, sure, ask.
But maybe more direct and less ambiguous, eh?
I might be wondering why you’re giving your bracelet away, and if I could give it to anyone that might actually have use for it.
You don’t need a gimmick to ask someone out.
Honestly if you hand me a bracelet I’d think it is a scam. Like you’d aske me money for it. Or you’re trying to recruit me into a cult.
Assuming you’re also going to talk to him a bit…
Women taking the initiative in conversation like that is always attention grabbing. It shows active intent not passive response. It makes the guy feel wanted and potentially desired (real winning move if you want him to like you). The novelty of it would help.
Think about it. The standard social procedure is men ask women out, that is what most people expect. Something that breaks the norm will stand out from the crowd. You want his attention? Stand out from the crowd. I’d certainly remember you after all this.
Yeah, he might be confused because it’s a bit rare to be on the other side of it but confusion doesn’t mean he wouldn’t be receptive.
And yeah, there’s a million reasons he might say no including having someone already or being orientation incompatible. But that’s the same risks guys deal with even without the advantage you have in this exchange.
I would be curious so why not
You give a choice.
Do you want this bracelet or my phone number?
Go from there
Just give a note, which imo is still kinda odd at that age, better be open, direct and honest about it, just say “Hey, I think you’re cute, can I have your number?”
Or “would you like to get a coffe sometime?”
Usually men will take it as a compliment when you approach them.
I would probably reject it, cuz, why do I even want a bracelet for? And even if you insist I very likely give it a quick glance, don’t notice the number and put it on my backpack to forget about it for months until when I have to wash it and find it there but have no memory of where it came from, so yeah…. Just go to him and try to make a normal conversation instead, good luck
I’d be concerned about her financial choices because bracelets cost $$$ plus seems kind of childish to me. It’s a lot easier (and less creepy not to mention cheaper) to use a pen to write the number or type it in his phone.
You’re theoretically an adult, use your words and just ask
Now you know how all guys feel all the time