I turn 30 in a few weeks and I’m a bit down thinking it’s going to be a fairly lonely day like a lot of my birthdays have been, but particularly with it being a milestone. All my best friends live 2-4 hours away, I’m unemployed and looking, social media shows me people having huge birthday parties, etc etc.
And from searching the subreddit it’s clear a lot of men have birthdays they’re less than enthused about. But guys that have managed to make your birthdays leave you feeling positive, what are things you did/initiatives you took to make that happen?
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I havent seen a need to celebrate my birthday in decades. Not because of any negative reasons. Its just another day.
I dont look down on anyone who does. I just never saw the point of it.
After I hit 30 I didn’t really find the need nor reason to celebrate my birthday. I don’t even recall if I celebrated my 30th birthday. Nothing wrong with wanting to celebrate it and feeling positive about it but I did have a few loved ones try to plan a few surprises for me. What I’d personally suggest would be to not expect anything and see where it takes you. Can’t be disappointed if you don’t have expectations. At least when something good does in fact happen, you might be able to appreciate it more.
IMHO As a man, the older you get, the further apart your birthdays get. This one is 30, your next will be 35, then 40, 50, 60. You get the idea. Everything in between us usually ignored, you might get a card but what good are they.
Do yourself a favour, but yourself something. That way you’re guaranteed to get something you want. Try it with Christmas and all the other bullshit festivals as well.
Hope this helps
I wanna say when I was 23 I started just driving out of town and drinking alone in a bar in another city a few hours away
No social media no phone calls just a motel close to a decent bar and food then I’d celebrate that way
my birthday is next month I plan on going out of town anywhere within 4-6 hours away got the time off of work already so that’s my plan
I do spend my birthdays alone as well since I have no family or friends in this town so it’s not so bad
It’s just another day to everyone else but I make an effort for myself