Ok, sorry but this is gonna be a long post.
My girlfriend has a friend who she has known since elementary school that she is close with. She married this guy in her early 20s and has two kids with him. I met them 7 years ago for the first time, and from the first time i met them i already couldnt stand the wife. I havent seen the husband as much as the wife since my girlfriend hangs out with her alot so she is at our house quite a bit. The husband seems alright, hard working and cares for his family as far as i can tell.
A few years ago my girlfriend told me that they were gonna try out swinging, of course it was the wifes suggestion. I told my girlfriend that it was a bad idea, and what do you know..The husband couldnt go through with it but the wife did, he almost left her because he felt so sick after. They went to therapy and worked it out.
Fast forward to summer 2025, this girl had been talking dirty with some man for a while, and wouldnt you know it, she was out one night and called him and she hooked up with him and again the next night! Nasty work, i know but it gets worse.
The next weekend my girlfriend and her was going away for the night, i get a snap from my girlfriend “sat in the lobby, guess why”. Well, this bitch was cheating again, with a new man! I couldnt believe it, i was disgusted, what is worse is my girlfriend drove her home to the husband and kids and the bitch aint even shower.
Tomorrow she has plans to go meet with a 3rd guy, and i dont know if i can just let her make a fool of this poor husband anymore, still i know i would split up a family and some friendships and i dont know if its my business to do so.
Also, ive talked to my girlfriend and asked her if she thinks this is ok behaviour and how she can possibly be friends with this person. Yes she thinks its awful, but she also avoids any kind of conflict.
So i know that if it was me, i’d want to know, and i know i should probably tell him. I guess i want comfirmation that i should and advice on how to do it.
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you gotta pick a side. you know what to do
If you stay silent you’re letting a good man live a lie while his wife plays puppet master behind his back. Tell him the truth because he deserves loyalty more than she deserves your silence.
You answered your own questions. You would want to know! So go to this husband with any evidence you have and tell him the truth of his life. Then you have a deep hard talk with your wife because she is now complicit in this other woman’s cheating (that is not cool).
So please be this man’s hero before he gets locked in with kids and mortgages and maybe raising another man’s kid.
Be pissed off at your wife.
An anonymous tip would be your best bet. Let him find some evidence.