so my girlfriend has invited me to her dad’s wedding next week. I really don’t want to go, I’ve met her dad and his girlfriend a couple times and has never been an issue apart from me being deathly quite because I’m terrible at making/keeping conversations going. We’ve been together for alittle over a year. I think my main issues are is that she is Polish and her family don’t speak much English apart from the basics. I struggle with conversations as it is so this is like added awkwardness and ill probably wont be talking much. But I know if I don’t go she will be upset even though she’s told me it’s fine if I don’t
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Dude, just go. Smile, nod, and be there for your girlfriend. That’s literally it.
If you have already spoken to your girlfriend about this, and if she has already told you that it’s “fine” if you don’t want to go to the wedding, I’m not sure what it is that you are concerned about.
Perhaps you feel that at some level she’s not being honest with you about her feelings?
Are you worried perhaps that she might in fact be disappointed or upset, but she is just saying something to make you feel good?
She’s going to be upset brutha.
Go anyway – it’s the right thing to do.
What’s the issue? Go and party
Do it for her, have a few drinks (don’t go overboard in front of in laws). Relax, have fun and just try and enjoy yourself. It’ll show her family that you’re supportive and it shouldn’t matter if you’re quiet. As long as you’re there for and if you really like her, you could potentially one day be part of their family. Get to know them, learn polish and teach them English idk. Just try and enjoy it, you might surprise yourself!
It’s totally normal to feel nervous about meeting her family, especially with the language barrier and your own social comfort. Even if you stay quiet, just being there will mean a lot to her. Sometimes showing up is the best way to support someone, even if the conversations feel tough. Maybe try focusing on small gestures a smile, listening, or just being present. She’ll likely appreciate the effort more than perfect chatter.
Go for your GF. If you can’t get through a wedding for her how are you going to get through life’s ups and downs with her. Pull it together, man.
Go, not because of today but because of what tomorrow might look like.
I would go bro, I would also suggest even though you aren’t likely to learn it in a week start studying Polish if your going for long term relationship you might as well try and connect with her family through their language even if your bad at speaking it.
You dont go for yourself, or to have fun, you do it for her. Being asked to attend at all is already a big step, she wants to show you off to her extended family, and you being pissy about it is not gonna help your relationship
Go to wedding
A couple of thoughts:
You say that you’re terrible at making / keeping conversations going. I get that. These types of conversations are often based on shared / common experiences. You know what would be a great shares / common experience? A family wedding.
You say that language is an issue. I’m willing to bet her family noticed the same thing. How awkward is it for them that they have this person which means so much to their daughter with whom they have a difficult time communicating? They KNOW it’s awkward for you. They KNOW attending the wedding will be awkward for you. Your doing so *despite* this awkwardness will be a substantial sign of respect to your girlfriend and her family.
Go to the wedding.
If you see a future with this girl, you should go. This is a part of being in anothe rperson’s life.
Show her that you will be there, no matter how you feel. Sacrifice is part of being in a relationship. If you want to work on your communication skills, just start talking to random people while you are out shopping or in random places. Read the news to talk about current events, watch documentaries, talk about hobbies you like or interests. All of these things are great conversation pieces and can usually keep the discussion going.
Go. Do it for her. She will chrlerish that more than the discomfort you may have to struggle with. You will make do just fine, and may even enjoy yourself better than expected. You will gain respect from the family.
An immediate family members’s wedding is something you gotta bite the bullet for. JS
If its her dads wedding, her dad is going have many more people to talk to than just you dont worry. Go for your gf
Just go, sometimes it’s easy to get caught up in your own head about things. Plus weddings are (mostly) nice welcoming vibes, get the drinks in have a boogy eat cake! (After it’s been cut ofc)
You should go.
It’s a wedding and you’re a plus one. You will barely be expected to talk beyond short and simple greetings and “how are you’s”. Especially not to the marital couple. They’ll be busy.
You just have to drink, dance, and eat good food on someone else’s dime.
…And then give them a wedding gift roughly equal to the seat they paid for.
You should go; at least shows some respect to your GF and possible future in-laws. If you don’t go, she would think you are not serious with her.