After the first heartbreak of my life (over a situationshipđź’€), when I decided that I was not going to do these things anymore, I (F19) met a guy(M19). I had not intention of dating him or anything romantic but the connection was so special that even with that fear, I kinda started liking him. At first it was a good sign because I thought i would never be able to like someone. But slowly I started over thinking. And the cycle started. The moment his responses don’t have the same energy, I start thinking that “yeah he met someone new, someone cooler than me. He doesn’t like me anymore. He is just being nice” and the problem is, we don’t have a lable yet because we haven’t met irl yet. We go to the same college but it’s summer break and we met online. So that’s why I am wondering, am I just one of his girl best friends? Or something more? We had late night talks, deep conversation, talked about our insecurities. But since he is a very sociable and friendly guy, I can’t say if he is interested romantically or likes me as a friend. He kinda flirts sometimes but what if he does that with everyone? Like he is in a big friend groups while I am an introverted girl with 3 friends.
The moment he is doesn’t “seem” as friendly as he used to be ( it might be in my head tho) I start worrying. And now I wanna disappear. I feel like I am the problem for over thinking like that. I never mentioned this to him though.
TL;DR: i don’t know if I am just a friend to him or he actually has other intentions. He has so many girls in his friend group and I am over thinking everything
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The only way to find out is to ask him.