hey, i’m m25 she’s f25. we moved across the country together, incredibly good friends with each other, and have been dating for 2 years. we’re a year into our move and it’s just coming to a point where we just aren’t intimate. everything feels forced, and not natural. it is currently july 17th and we’ve had sex twice since the 1st of the year. everytime we do it’s just not great, and not incredibly sexually compatible. i’m large and she’s small if you catch my drift, just genuinely feels uncomfortable for both parties, to the point where i genuinely don’t want to do it when she wants to, which she almost never does. at this age we shouldn’t be going through this, it’s demoralizing feeling stuck.
recently just got a huge job offer in our hometown and i just can’t pass on it but we have a lease going for next year. definitely in a sticky situation but an even worse situation relationship wise. i know i can’t just say “im not sexually attracted to you”
TLDR: im in a 2 year relationship across the country from home, haven’t been sexually active with my girlfriend for 7 months, and i got a job offer in my hometown.
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You don’t, you just break up kindly, and move on.
You don’t. That will crush her self esteem, and she will carry that for the rest of her life. It’s also unnecessary. You can say you’re not sexually compatible, and that you want to take the job opportunity. It’s that simple. Offer to pay to the break the lease, and move on.