what do I do?

so, potentially trigger warning for mention of rape and sexual assault.

anyways, im a minor, and I had started going out with a guy whos about two years older than me (still a minor but closer to an adult than me), whatever no big deal. my mother had started asking me questions about this guy, such as “what’s his home life look like” “what’s his relationship with his parents.”, and I had told her that he has two moms, and then she proceeded to ask me why the dad wasnt in the picture. whether that be adoption or whatever. and I was hesitant to answer, and I finally told her he was in jail, she proceeded to ask me why and I stonewalled her for awhile because I knew it wasn’t something I wanted to share outright, but the records for his arrest were public and she probably wouldve found them, so I answered and told her he was in jail for rape incredibly hesitant. and she kept asking me who it was toward and was yelling for not answering, so I said him and she proceeded to call him trash, and say I no longer should hang around him. but, ive been raped myself and my mother is aware, so I started asking, “does that make me trash too?” and she just kept dodging and yelling at me. then, she threatened to tell my father, (my parents are not together and i live with my dad primarily.) and as much as i hated sharing his trauma, i knew my mother would twist the narrative to him, and potentially not let me see this guy at all if he got to him first, I told my father. and of course, he didn’t mind and he doesnt view him differently. but now im at a loss, I feel like a bad person for airing his trauma out, but I know why my mother was concerned, and I guess what im asking is. do I tell him my mother doesnt like him for this? do I just not tell him my mom doesnt like him because my mom has 0 custody over me and hed never meet her anyway? do I even tell him I told anyone? because I totally understand why my mom was worried, asking why his dad was in jail and I know she wants me to be safe, but calling him trash over this and not wanting me to be around him even though ive been through the same thing. I just dont know what to do and im guilt ridden. I really like the guy and I dont want to mess things up.