There’s not much to it. I (20M) am in the Air Force. I’m planning on being in for 20 years. I just got my first ever girlfriend 2 months ago. yippee. Anyways, we broke up but on very good terms. She realized that I would have to go on deployments for months on end. We wanted the same kinda life but she wanted one with me in it more. Anyways, what I want advice on is will I ever be able to find a proper relationship? I have bad trust issues from my mom cheating throughout my life. And I’m painfully naive. I also fall in love fast and very very hard. I feel like I’ve lost a part of my heart. Will I ever be happy? I’ve been thinking dating isn’t worth it but now…. That I’ve felt love. It’s so hard to not be able to act on it.
I’m in the military. I just lost my first relationship a few days ago.
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You definitely will find a relationship! You just need to find someone who understands, maybe someone who is also in the military would be a good fit?
Hi my friend, so sorry for your breakup, but I’m glad it was on good terms. It sounds like you found a lovely person, but your life paths were not aligned which is a common, albeit painful reason to part. Please know these feelings will pass, no matter how strong.
I can tell you that you will find love and that it is possible despite deployment. It just takes the right person to understand that. For example, I hate long distance, so I wouldn’t entertain the thought, but my other friend is getting married after 4 years in a LDR and so excited. Focus on what you want, and the right person WILL come along.
Yes, you’ll love again and better. This pain just shows how deeply you can care, which is a strength. The right person will meet you where you are, even with the distance and trust wounds. For now, heal, grow, and trust that love isn’t off the table it’s just not done with you yet.
Move on brah, the right one is still out there! Go get her! Rock steady!!!
Yeah you’re absolutely capable of finding a healthy relationship while with the Air Force. Hell, you might find a lovely Air Force lady, who knows? But you’re only 20 my guy, you have plenty of time. My only advice is don’t go and have a bunch of sex before getting a relationship. I feel like you’re fairly mature so I’m sure you already don’t want to have a bunch of random sex, but still, it’s such a waste by the time you actually find that special lady. The amount you give away and can’t get back because you got your rocks off isn’t worth it. The wait is absolutely worth it tho.
you will bro i had like 7 8 girlfriends growing up been single since 18 22 now and thats not for a lack of trying i feel the same i like i used to have game but will i ever find someone down to earth and just not fkn crazy all my boys have had girlfriends some broken relationships some great i just wanna be happy yano but hopefully one day hope the same for you bro i was gonna go royal regement of scotland i was supposed to be shipped to basic at 16 in harrogate i was a stuck up drug fueled kid still am lol good on ya man i wish i done it then to be fair take care stranger keep yourself safe while fixing or flying those 6th gens f`15 and 16s look dope too think we still have like newer harrier jump jets and use f15 still hooah and Aim High Fly-Fight-Win