I know maybe no one will reply but i like to vent on here sometimes. I’m 23 turning 24 never had a girlfriend or anything close to it I’m scared of girls and I’m the only one out of the few people around me that doesn’t or never had anyone. My dad even asked if i was gay and that hurt being that I’m just scared of girls but anyways, I recently lost my job and ran out of money I’m applying but I’m still broke living at my families house. I’m fat and I’ve lost 40 lbs since may 2025 from not eating and i feel weak. I don’t know what I’m doing with my life I’m wasting away. the older i get the more fear i get of being alone my whole life which i caused and i sit here and cry wishing someone would help me but its a ME problem and no one really actually cares as long as they don’t feel it. I don’t really feel like typing anything else so ill leave at this!!!
I just want a hug
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You’re not alone, even if it feels like it right now. Life can hit hard, and it’s okay to feel lost but you’ve already shown strength by opening up. You’re not broken, just hurting. Keep going, even if it’s slow. You matter, and things can change. Sending that hug your way.
Start going for walks brother. Drink.lots of water ), make your bed everyday, do not sleep until bed time. Start from there. Keep.simple.
Try writing things down? Figure out a plan, it seems there’s a general idea, a direction but there’s no plan. Write out some goals, create a plan first. That fear in ur head over women is just a little bully, as long as you’re respectful, some women just don’t want to be talked to. Understand that! Women are people too, we feel daily things too. There IS a game that is played when it comes to these things, and it takes practice to learn how to play ✨
Big hug, babe 💔 you’re not alone even if it hella feels like it right now. You’re doing your best in a sh*tstorm and that counts. Keep holding on, the storm does pass, even if it’s slow af.
Control what you can, and cope with what you can’t. Haven’t a partner isn’t everything, if I wasn’t married I’d stay single as I love my family but alone time is great and it gives you opportunity to build for yourself.
You’re broke? Okay the good news is you’re living with family so you’re not homeless right now, I know it can suck living with family but you’ve got a foundation right there to give you time. Keep applying for jobs, you’ll get something.
Congrats on losing 40 pounds, I know that’s not easy but you’re doing the damn thing and that’s inspiring as hell. You can keep losing weight and working on yourself mentally as a person to be even stronger and come out on top.
You’re 23, my friend. I’m not much older, only 28 but I’m just now getting my shit together and able to provide. You can as well…. As a counselor, please focus on your mentality and building yourself up. The things you’ve addressed are in your control outside of the relationships for the most part as you can’t force anyone to be with you but you can focus on yourself and wait for the right person to show up.
Get a job, build credit, build an emergency fund, savings, ROTH IRA, spending money, all of that and you’ll be invincible.
Get the fuck out there and kick the worlds ass man… you’re worth it, and you’ve got this. Don’t let the unexpected bring you down, use this as motivation to move forward. You managed to type this post which means you’re breathing right now, which means you’re alive right now; the opportunities are endless with just that alone.
Well, i certainly know how that feels like. My advice is to get tested for depression. I know life feels hard right now and it won’t stop feeling hard but you need to power through this. Go to a shelter and pet some animals, read some books. Do something enjoyable that does not involve screens. It’ll help. Get a routine.
Hope you get better.
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Be yourself broo ,I’m even younger than you and I wanna tell you to be yourself and to delete those ideas in your head and do a night walk and go to the gym and read 📚 and stop thinking like that I’m really sure that’s make a sense