My girlfriend of 6 years broke up with me last week. This was a complete surprise, and she had said that I wasn’t giving her enough attention and didn’t seem to care enough about her anymore. This genuinely suprised me as it seemed like we were having a great point in our relationship. The next 3 days I had hardly ate or slept, thinking the whole time of how I messed up and wishing I could go back in time to be better. Until I seen her following when I was checking if she deleted our photos, which she did. I noticed she had followed over 20 guys, it was easy to notice because she had hardly followed anyone. I seen guys she had talked to before we had started dating and the worst part is she had followed two of her exs. This broke my heart, I didn’t know how she could do this after 6 years. I could hardly even look at another person right now. I am now really struggling and questioning if that really was the reason she had broken up with me.
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Does she have a lot of single friends?
Dude, things fall apart sometimes. Whatever you do don’t look at her social media and try to move on. It’s impossible to know if that was all that was going on unless they tell you. You can try and learn something from this relationship, but I think looking at her social media is not going to help you do this.
>How do I cope with this?
Trash took out itself. Frankly I would be happy knowing I am no longer going to waste my time on such a person.
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“Checked her socials” Oof that seldom works out well. We call that pain fishing.
Honestly sounds like she did you a favour. Might not seem like it now but her actions are of that of someone with low integrity and lacking moral fibre
The way you cope is to block her on all media and stop paying attention. Good riddance to bad business.