For more context, we have been dating for 11 months and we live together. In the beginning of our relationship I had another woman reach out stating that he was messaging her almost immediately after we became official on social media, however she was never able to provide me with proof. I believed him with the explanation he gave me and moved on blissfully like an idiot. Today, another woman reached out to me and provided me unfortunately, graphic sexting messages and a video that he had sent her. She did not play along and it made me feel hopeful that there are still girls who will have your back even if you’ve never met. I immediately confronted him and it was blame game from the minute I mentioned it. He did own up to it but immediately blamed me for the reason behind him sexting her. A previous ex had done the exact same thing in our long term relationship so I know exactly what path that lead me on and I swore to myself I’d never let myself accept that behavior again. This time, however, he has threatened to kill himself and I now feel like I’m backed into a corner. If I end things, he potentially will kill himself and I live with the guilt that I was the cause. Truly I don’t know how I can handle that mentally. If I stay, I threaten my own wellbeing and potentially lose my sense of self again, ending in a relationship full of resentment, which I also don’t know if I can handle it mentally. I truly love this man and had dreams/plans of marrying him, however, I don’t see myself ever being able to trust him ever again and I fear I’m in an emotionally abusive relationship that is now showing its ugly side. I know deep down what I need to do but I’m terrified. How can I safely exit this relationship?
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Leave and go to family/friends house and tell him its over once you’re secure. He has an ex, so if he didnt kill himself when they broke up, chances are he wont now. Even if he did go through with it, that isnt your fault. He should’ve thought about how much it’d suck to lose you before he cheated. I once had a girl tell me she would kill herself if I didnt agree to meet up with her so she could apologize. I told her I didnt want her to hurt herself but I’m not responsible for her decisions and I didnt meet up with her. She’s alive and well and someone elses problem. BE SAFE though. I wouldn’t break up in person. I would go to a friend/family members house and call him and tell him. No matter what he says, dont give in. Once a cheater always a cheater… I found this out the hard way, wasting years of my life. Never again. I hope you make the right decision.
Good luck.
How old is she
Report his self-harm threat to the suicide hotline and let them deal with him
Call a domestic violence hotline for yourself and ask for help exiting this situation. If you have friends or family in the area reach out for sanctuary.
You are not responsible if he decides to take his life (actually threatens to) because this is just another manipulation by a serial cheater.
How can you truly love someone you don’t even know and you don’t if you were totally unaware of his hookup attempts during the entire time you have been with him.
He is a piece of garbage for treating you so badly and you know better than to stick around.
Get out while you can.
While he is at work, vacate the premises. Then tell him however manner you feel is safe. Then inform his family or friends of his previous threats so that they are aware and able to attend to him.
Oh heck to the no. The threat is manipulation. Don’t fall for it. If you know a friend or family member that you can reach out to do that. But, his actions are not your responsibility. There is very little chance he would do that. He’s just trying to get to you.
They always say they’ll kill themselves and they almost never do. Two of my exes said the same thing. It’s a control tactic. Don’t let it work. Let him think you don’t care if he lives or dies. He’ll go find some other girl to cheat on.
Contact his parents or family and let them know what he told you. They need to get him the help he needs. If that’s not possible call the suicide help line and let them deal with him.
Report him to police that he’s threatening you and blackmailing you into staying in a relationship that you are not comfortable with! He will not kill himself but he might do it to you if you try to leave. So stay safe and don’t be with this blackmailer. Tell his family about this after you get out safely. Let them deal with what they raised